Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder

I recently ran across information online about Separation Anxiety Disorder, which is a panic/anxiety disorder that afflicts adults.  I was really surprised to read about the variety of symptoms included within the disorder, all of which are related to the core issue: a fear of being alone or abandoned.


Here is the DSM IV criteria for Separation Anxiety Disorder:


A. Developmentally inappropriate and excessive anxiety concerning separation from home or from those to whom the individual is attached, as evidenced by three (or more) of the following: 






  1. Recurrent excessive distress when separation from home or major attachment figures occurs or is anticipated. 
  2. Persistent and excessive worry about losing, or about possible harm befalling, major attachment figures. 
  3. Persistent and excessive worry that an untoward event will lead to separation from a major attachment figure(e.g.; getting lost or being kidnapped). 
  4. Persistent reluctance or refusal to go to school or elsewhere because fear of separation.  
  5. Persistent and excessively fearful or reluctant to be alone or without major attachment figures at home or without significant adults in other settings. 
  6. Persistent reluctance or refusal to go to sleep without being near a major attachment figure or to sleep away from home. 
  7. Repeated nightmares involving the theme of separation. 
  8. Repeated complaints of physical symptoms (such as headaches, stomach aches, nausea, or vomiting) when separation from major attachment figures occurs or is anticipated. 
B. The duration of the disturbance is at least 4 weeks. 
C. The onset is before age 18 years. 
It's strange how much I identify with this disorder.  Every symptom could have been written specifically about me.  I'm going to outline a little about how this disorder impacts my life. 
I suffer from a fairly frequent fear of being kidnapped and forced to be isolated from my significant other.  I also fear that he will be killed or will be taken away from me through a variety of scenarios (some more peculiar than others).  I'm afraid he will meet someone else and leave me because he will like them more than me or find them more interesting. 
When he has to go anywhere for any reason for any length of time my immediate response is to panic.  A million scenarios run through my head.  He has to go visit his grandma in the nursing home and my brain goes on panic overdrive: he likes his grandma more than me, he'd rather see her than see me, he just wants to get out of the house and be away from me, there might be a cute nurse there and she could be better than me and they could have an affair and maybe he'll never come home at all or maybe his car will wreck and he'll get amnesia, what if I am kidnapped while he's gone and he can't find me?  It's silly and outside of the moment I can identify it as silly, but in the moment the fears feels very real and very valid.  
My separation anxiety also causes me to miss out on doing things I would otherwise enjoy.  I will avoid scheduling things for times when my significant other is at home, even if the overlap is less than an hour.  I can't stand reducing the amount of time we have to spend together by even a few minutes.  If there is a scheduling change for either of us, I panic.  If I feel that he had control over the change and scheduled something during a time when we could have been together I get frustrated and accusatory.  I panic and I behave irrationally.  
Over the last three years, I have spent a total of maybe 15 nights away from my significant other.  Those nights I couldn't sleep.  I laid in bed and cried.  I felt like he had abandoned me.  I felt like he didn't love me anymore and didn't care that we were apart. 
And that brings me to one of the major issues I struggle with.  Because I place such importance on being together, when he does not show signs of separation anxiety when I'm not around I feel betrayed, unloved, undervalued.  By my (flawed) logic: I love him and want to be with him, so I'm devastated when he's not around.  He's not devastated when I'm not around (he's not even bothered!), so how can he love me?  Does he even like me?  Maybe he never wanted to be with me at all!
And this is the trap of Separation Anxiety Disorder.  The more you try to make the person like/love you, the more you push them away and the reason for this is simple: to this other person, there is no issue.  You are fighting a war in your head that doesn't really exist.  It's as simple as that, but it's a damn hard lesson to learn.  The reason he doesn't care when I'm not around is because it doesn't matter to him, not because he doesn't like me or love me or want to spend time with me, but because he does not share my fear that significant people might not return once they leave.  From his perspective, since he knows I will always come back he is fine.  Why shouldn't he be fine?  He is secure in our love and attachment, he has no reason to believe my departure would or could mean anything other than that I have something in my schedule, so he finds something to do on his own and is just as happy as a clam.  When I return home it's as if nothing has even happened, because nothing has happened, separations and reunions are a natural, normal part of life. 
People with Separation Anxiety Disorder have a reason to feel the way that they do, they have a reason to fear abandonment.  Many adults with this disorder were once neglected, abused and abandoned kids.  They were hurt or not protected by the people they trusted.  The important thing to remember is that other people have not had the same experiences and thus do not feel the same way.  Adults who have had healthy relationships (particularly in childhood with their parents) are not afraid of being left alone.  Their fundamental beliefs about the world are different from those of people with separation anxiety.   Accepting and understanding this is the first step at overcoming the disorder. 


268 comments:

  1. This is me. Almost exactly, down to the detail.

    Interested to read more...thank you for sharing!

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    1. I recently moved into college only 26 mins from my moms house but ever since I started staying away I can eat, sleep or function. If I do nap I have nightmares about something bad happening to her I just feel helpless I have no drive to do anything but cry and drive home as fast as I can...

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    2. I have been in bondage ever since my ex leave for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much, Things get worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster Dr. Kasee who have save so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email (onimalovespell@yahoo.com) i explain everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend come to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i am the one and only woman in his life now. i was surprise i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Dr Kasee contact him today on ONIMALOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

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    3. i think i may have the same issue. i have been with my boyfriend for eight months.we met in college and practically lived together in the same dorm. now that school is out we moved back home. I was okay for about two weeks but now even thinking about him or talking about him makes me vomit. I dont know what to do because i really do think he is perfect in every way. my body is telling me to break up but I dont want to. this happened to me with my ex too. we were together for six months then we were separated and all i could do was vomit when we were together. when i was thirteen my dad left us and i think that is the cause for all this. Please help me with any advice you might have. i just want to be happy and not sick towards my boyfriend

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  2. I can relate to everything you wrote, because I have felt the same things. I started to cry as I was reading. I thought wow, I am not alone or weird for feeling these things.
    Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Yeah, I was crying as well while reading this. How can I fix it?!

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  3. I am 40 years old and I am educated and smart. I am supposed to start a job in a city two hours from my spouse. I have the option of coming home every week but the closer the time gets that I am supposed to leave, I begin to cry uncontrollably and I get scared. I can't control this.

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    1. I am a 47 year old woman, smart and also successful. I grew up not feeling loved by my family of origin. I've been with a wonderful man for 17 years and I've always felt anxious when he worked 4 or 5 graveyard shifts. At bedtime I felt terror the first 2 nights and then I was just getting use to sleeping alone and then he was off for 5 days. The separation anxiety was difficult for about a good year before I adapted. Now I still get a bit anxious on his first graveyard. At least now I am able to sleep and stay alone.

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  4. I had a very cathartic cry just now reading this as well. I suffer from all of these same emotions and as frustrated as it makes me, it feels so good to know that I am not alone. This has haunted me my entire life and it seems that every move I make anymore is a direct reaction to these feelings. I live in a constant state of fear, fear that I am not lovable, that my spouse will die or choose to go, that the family I no longer live near will be hurt, etc. I suffer the most when my spouse leaves on business. Even two days without him can have a crippling effect on me. Thank you so much for posting this.

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    1. i am feeling same way as you...now my husband is going on a office trip for just 2 days.. and i am already depressed....

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  5. I am 60 years old and married for 34 years. My husband just packed up and left one day telling me not to take it personally, but he was never coming back and was getting a divorce. I wake up every morning scared and shaking with anxiety. Swimming helps, but i worry how i will ever start over at this age and have no idea of where i want to live or what to do..

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    1. See it as an opportunity to try something new! Hope you're doing well!

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  6. im 20 years old and this way with my mom.

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    1. Hey,Yea I am in my 30s and have experianced ASAD with my mom for years now. It has come and gone over the years. It started when I was a child in my early teens and effected my social growth and caused me anxiety, bulling with name calling, and embarassment. After I started driving it seemed to get a lot better but still lingered. I ended up moving away a couple hours from home and still dealt with it but was bearable. As my father got sick it started to come back again and eventually my father passed away and it came back full force. I deal with anxiety, panic attacks, OCD each and every day. I have to control everything I do to make sure I know where my mom is at, and what she is doing. I know it has ruined a huge part of my life and keeps me from doing what I should be doing. I do work but its the same routine each day. I set my alarm on days my mom works so i'm up at 6:45 to call her before she leaves for work. Then I have to make sure she calls me before she gets to work so I know she is safe. Like right now I am thinking yea she is done at 3:00 ok and is she gonna call me first or am I gonna have to call her. Then wonder what am I gonna do if she doesnt pick up the phone? The crazy thoughts that go through my head are not normal. I am in a relationship but it has struggles because my life is controlled by my ASAD. I miss out of friendships, going away places, doing normal things and leading a normal life. I would never wish it on anyone or anything like this. Of course words can never get anyone to understand just how draining physically and mentally this is unless you actually have ASAD. Well good luck to everyone dealing with this horrible disease. Hopefully one day there will be that majic switch to turn off all these mental disorders that challenge good people all over the world.

      Oh and on a side note... I know I did not do spell check :-)

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    2. Never thought I would read a post where someone did the same "crazy" things that I do with my Mom. I am in my 30s as well and I constantly check up on her, I call her all of the time, I make her call me when she gets to work and on her way to work if she is traveling out of town.
      I love my Mom and she is my best friend. I have missed out on so much in life because of this and I know if I don't find help (in some form) I will continue to miss out on more. I am a single mom myself and my daughter is amazing. My dream would be to be able to go and take her camping (just her and I) and not have me worring 24/7 that something has happened to my Mom.

      I am in a relationship too. But probably not for the right reasons. I have settled to be with him because he doesn't judge me for being a "crazy" person with the need to check up on my mom all of the time.

      Anyways..I am sure I could go on forever. I wish you all the very best...and if I ever find the "magic pill" that makes this better...I will be sure to let you know.

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  7. I'm 27 and feel this way about my partner. I really identified with what you said about not scheduling social things during a time when we could be together. I'm seeing a psychologist next week to learn better coping skills.

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    1. How'd that work out for you?

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  8. i didnt realise i was so out of control but seeing this wrote down in black and white Thank You i think you may have saved my sanity and marriage Thank you

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  9. I feel exactly what you wrote. I fear that my husband will be hurt on his way to work and if he doesn't text me when he gets there I panic. I always schedule my lunch during his and make sure we have the same days off. When he leaves for work I get really upset and anxious. I'm nervous he will find someone else and like them more than me. I get nervous that I am to needy and that he will get sick of me needing to be around him and leave. I don't go out with friends unless we both go because the idea of being apart for a longer period is unbearable. I need help and I have no idea how to even begin...

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  10. This is me...This is exactly what I'm going through...I have ASAD mostly with my boyfriend (who I'm living with). His step-mother just had her first child on Valentine's Day, and my bf and all his siblings from his father's first marriage were asked to fly to the other side of the country (her family is from CA while we live in DC) for the weekend to meet the new baby. I was asked not to go (still don't really understand why), and so I'm currently sitting alone crying off and on almost every 5 minutes, feeling completely abandoned. I won't see him for another 3 days. I know he didn't want to leave me alone, and I know he doesn't get out big a deal it is for me when he leaves, but I feel like I can't do anything until he gets back. We've known about his coming departure for about a month now, and it's been the month from hell. I've been depressed, anxious, angry, and hurt for a month straight, and this weekend, the weekend he's gone, is now here, and I feel worse than ever. His father has done this type of thing many times before (asking that I not attend something that involves family) in the past 4+ years that my bf and I have been together. This wasn't supposed to keep happening, and yet here I am, crying, telling my story to the first people I've found since my ASAD set in years ago that may actually understand what I'm going through. I just wish I had someone I could talk to in person who actually understood...Rant over now...thanks for "listening"

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    1. I wish I could have read this back in Feb when you were feeling this, as I know exactly how you feel! I'm going through a very similar thing now and I just get so anxious and panicked... I literally have been doing nothing but wallowing for a week. Its like all my capabilities have disappeared and I am rendered helpless when I'm alone...

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  11. Reading all of this sounded like everything I've dealt with for years. My wife has turned down business trip after business trip because I couldn't deal with the seperation.I thought I was able to deal with things but as it got close I'd freak out. It's put a real strain on her and our marriage. I'm seeking help, therapy and medicine. She's at the the point where she jusy can't deal with it anymore. I really do love her,and I don't want to lose her. I wish I could help her see that this isn't how I want to live or be. I want to have a "normal" relationship. We've been together for 25 years and I really fear that this will be the reason for us ending.

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  12. Thank you for writing this article. This is exactly how I've been feeling for the past few months.

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  13. JacobAndrewAlmanzaApril 11, 2012 at 2:36 PM

    I read every single comment on this post. Wow. It's comforting to know that Im not the only one dealing with this, but it's also scary to know that it can last even 4-years into a relationship. I guess we all just have to really try to reprogram our thoughts. I loved how the writer states that this is a "war that doesn't exist", that our spouses can let us go because they are secure and know we will return. We need to all think like this. Maybe even write it on sticky notes or in our smart phones and read it on a daily basis. I suffer from this with my boyfriend and I can tell he sees a pattern, but Im willing to fight because I desire to be as happy and calm as he is. Thank you so much for this post, and to everyone who's posted on this thread, you have my support and good thoughts. We can easily overcome this!

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    1. I never write on these forums but I am very compelled. I have been married 20 years and just recently realized this disorder even existed. Especially in myself. My work always kept me busy, stressed out and away from my wife. I always thought my feelings were out of guilt from leaving her holding the bag with our 4 boys. This was until I retired after a 23 year flying career in the Air Force. I have a little more time on my hands now but couldn't understand why I freaked out so badly when my wife and her best friend went on vacation and left me with the boys for a change. I drove all the boys crazy and was miserable, short, and unable to concentrate on any one thing the whole time she was gone. Now I know why. I have serious baggage from my childhood that I thought was just water under the bridge, but all that's coming back now. My wife is excellent and exceedingly supportive. She's known I had separation anxiety for a long time, but never told me. Until I discovered it myself while trying to understand why she would go away without me. I fit all the classic examples listed above and now I have to figure a way to deal with this in a manner that makes me happy and gives me enjoyment with my life when I can't be with my wife. I even thought she enjoyed being with her friend more than me, in spite of the fact that we've been happily married for so long. Thanks for your words and helping me label something I couldn't quite put my finger on so I can now figure out how to be happy. Cheers!

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  14. This is all very helpful. This is something i suffer badly from every time my wife visits her family, sometimes for a month or more. It appears to me that she is happier with them than she is at home. I don't sleep very well, lose my appetite and obsessively think irrational thoughts. Everything about me seems to suffers. I somehow cope but not very well. After its over, I look back and see how irrational some of my thinking was. It helps a lot to know that others feel the same way and are working through it. An understanding partner is important and talking it through makes progress. I'm working on recognizing my negative thoughts and taking them in a different direction. It's not easy at all but life throws all sorts challenges at us. We can do it Team ASAD!

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  15. thank you so much for posting this! I totally fit into this catagory to a "T". I was abused by my mother throughout my childhood constantly ( almost weekly). I always have a very hard time letting go of poeple whom I think that are close to me even though I knew they are abusers/users. I kept falling back into the same trap of being abused yet can't figure out why until I read your article today. Is there a local support group?

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  16. I am amazed at how common this is/ However, is there anyone who has fear of marriage as it involves separation from mother? Also, what is the treatment?

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  17. I am so grateful for this article, i cannot believe how helpful it has been to me. i decided to look up separation anxiety as i find it hard to be away from my partner for long periods of time. i find myself getting very worked up when i know he is going to be going away for a few days. we don't live together as we are both raising our own children, but i hope we can one day. i cannot think of any reason as to why ASAD has come on at this stage of my life (i am 25) as i cannot recall any abuse growing up. its a very scary thing to go through when all you think is that you are crazy and obsessive. its a relief to know that there is a name for this feeling and that it can be treated. thanks.

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  18. As hard as it is to post something here because it hurts to do so, I find it relieving to know that I am not alone. Never before had I suffered anxiety until an incident with immigration involving my fiance' at the time. When I realized it would be a year before the lazy bureaucrats processed our case, a sudden awful feeling just took over. Later I learned it was anxiety - separation anxiety to be specific. With the help of friends, family and a great social worker, I was able to deal with it. However, it is not cured, only placated. Five years later and happily married, I sit and wonder what wiring is wrong in my persona that causes me to take another trip down this worrysome path here today. She is leaving for a 6 week trip home to Asia and I can not help but dwell on this daily. Exercising and sobriety help. However, finding things to stay busy also help too. May all those who posted here find a measure of peace and I sincerely thank you for sharing. It lets me know I am not alone with my affliction.

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  19. Hi, I'm no longer 21 and yup I've been a member of this club for 6 months of my 1 year relationship with my girlfriend ! Of course she senses something is amiss , of course I'm too much a mans man to admit to it ! I'll post this here guys and email my beloved girlfriend a link !
    Tom ...

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  20. I am so glad I googled this today. I felt so alone with this. I have extreme separation anxiety from my girlfriend. Every time she goes away-for more than a few days-I completely lose it. My fear that she will decide she does not want to be with me becomes so intense that I actually experience the pain of the break-up. It is horrible and crippling. I can't shake the feelings, they overwhelm and consume. I am left crying and sad until she returns. Sometimes I can pull myself out of it briefly by going to the gym or talking to a friend, but the pain always returns. It is so comforting to realize that I am not alone but does anyone have any suggestions on how to learn to cope with and heal from this? I fear it will push her away, it actually already is. We've been together for over 5 years. I also am really jealous. After she comes back, my "fever" breaks and I am able to see how irrational and ridiculous my thoughts and behavior were. God please help me, I don't want to lose this wonderful girlfriend of mine!

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    1. hi im also like this! i cant stop crying and my emotions are so heavy! i dunno why but my fiancee love me so much and even proposed on me in front of people during birthday. we been together for 2 weeks and after that he needs to go back to CA and i need to stay here in PH where I live. i dont miss him before i meet him in person but after i saw in meet him finally in person this month i felt so depressed after he left coz he need to go back to CA for work. i always remember the things and places we went to. i cant even go out now coz im scared i might remember our memories in that place. i know we have no problem and i know he really loves me coz from the day he went back to CA we are always on skype even when his working. he said he will be back here on sept and dec this yr until we are together he even left his some important things to me but still i felt broken hearted that we are apart for now for awhile. im worried that I have extreme separation anxiety from my fiancee. i cant control my emotions... its killing me God help me! :(

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  21. Thank you for publishing this article. My recent 13-year relationship ended at the same time as I reconnected with someone I was very attracted to many years ago. My fantasy became a reality when we became romantically involved, both of us leaving long-term relationships and moving on with our lives. We made plans, we got apartments in the same building to be close to each other. Then he stopped contacting me and started to see more and more of his ex, spending most nights there (I know this because I obsessed by checking the parking lot for his car). Now I constantly feel anxious and have this sick feeling in my stomach because he would rather be with his ex than me. On the few occasions I see him, the pain vanishes and I feel so happy again, but it is so fleeting and rare. I wish I could stop seeing him completely, but I fear I would do something stupid. In my case, I know I've lost him - but the anxiety will not leave me. Thank you for listening.

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    1. omg you could be describing me!

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  22. Just like everyone else, I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this site. I am 44, married for 23 years and have struggled with this since I got married and my husband went away during hunting season. I tried so hard to fight it, and I felt so stupid and immature. My fear isn't that my husband will find someone else, but the thought, "this is what it will be like if he dies and is never coming home." just won't stop running through my mind. I get like this when I go away without him, too. I even tried taking a position that would force me to travel for 5-7 days per year out of the state and that has not made it better. I keep thinking if I force myself to be in these positions, I will get used to it and be better. WRONG!!! I had a very loving childhood, so can't imagine where this is coming from, but I hate it and wish it would stop

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    1. I am 42 and I feel exactly as you do. I have also forced myself to do things out of my comfort zone to deal with it. I've lost special people because I get so intense and how ironic that it is the fear of losing them which makes me behave this way. I had a great childhood and I wish I knew what the trigger was.

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    2. Hi Dawn,
      Do not know if you are still checking this board, but if you are, I was wondering if you experienced the death of someone very important in your life while you were a child. My much loved grandmother died when I was in 3rd grade and I had recently moved out of her house to join my parents some distance away. I am exploring this as a possible explanation of my extreme anxiety in anticipation of separation from a SO and during the actual separation. It puts me into a hyper-vigilant panic state and it is a struggle to try to function normally. I felt that my childhood was very loving and I was very close to my mother. The mother seems to come into play in many of these cases, as well, and I wonder if there is a common thread in their behavior that we may not have realized when were young...and certainly not as infants. Any thoughts greatly appreciated. Thanks for posting and I wish you the best as you cope with these painful issues.

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  23. I feel almost everything you just described all the time. It's been an issue ever since my husband and I started dated when we were in high school (we've been together 6 years now) and it has only gotten worse, especially in this past year. My husband and I had lived with my father from the time we graduated up until last year when we lost him to cancer, and we had only known about it for three months almost to the day. Since losing my father, who I considered my best friend, I feel all I have to live for is my husband. And he recently started a new career in flood restoration where he is required to be on call for a week at a time every month, and my separation anxiety has only gotten mompnumentally worse. Every time my huasband suddenly grabs his phone or I hear it vibrating, my heart feels like it stops and it is so physically painful, even if it might just turn out to be something like a Facebook notification or something else insignificant. He actually had to go out of town for training for five days and I literally made it a few hours before I had a full on panic attack meltdown, and almost left the house in the middle of the night to drive to him 6 hours away, but he calmed me down enough over the phone that I was able to get about four hours of sleep and wait for daylight to drive out and be with him. Luckily, he knows that I'm "crazy" as we call it, and since we can't afford insurance to see a doctor, he does everything he can to help ease my stress, and I love him so much more for that. I also can't plan any sort of outing whatsoever if he's not going to be by my side the entire time, I really don't set foot outside at all unless he's with me. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone, I feel so fortunate to have a husband who is willing to deal with the fact that I can't control my irrational fears and thoughts, but it helps to know there are others out there who experience the same things I do, I seriously thought I had to be the only one.

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  24. I had no idea so many people had this problem. I have extreme anxiety about being away from my fiancé. I used to worry a lot about him leaving me for someone else, but now I mostly just worry about him dying. It's a terrible way to live. I wish I could afford therapy, but I guess for now, I have to try to deal with it on my own. Too bad there is a lack of self-help stuff online about ASAD.

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    1. people realy don't understand us, as we don't understand it ourselves and the internet is the only place i found with information and a nanme for this dibilitating condition. I feel so out of control and alone I don't know how to control it if you can do that. I know the reason I suffer from them but even that I can't explain away the anxiety. People say just think about somethingelse but the anxiety and panic takeover all your sense of reason.

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  25. I suffer from this too, worrying about something bad happening to my husband when he travels. Two things that have helped me are: (1) a book called "The Anti-Anxiety Workbook" by Martin M. Antony and Peter J. Norton (for those of us who can't afford to go to a therapist); and (2) Google Latitude, which is a free GPS tracking app. for smartphones. The person you track needs to agree to be tracked, and my husband has, since he knows I worry. This way, I can check on my computer or phone to see if he has arrived at his destination safely, without having to bother him with phone calls.

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  26. I never suffered from this until my boyfriend went overseas for 6 weeks. I would get a texts every now and then because communicating was hard. On Christmas day I wished him a merry Christmas and celebrated with my family. Throughout the day I obsessively checked my phone for a reply, and was always disappointed by the 'no messages' sign to the point of agony. As midnight fell, I began to shake and sweat, convinced that he was kidnapped, killed, injured..etc. I prayed and prayed that he'd be alright, and tried to calm myself down. I finally managed to sleep but awoke to the sound of a text. Relief was so strong it hurt and tears of happiness streamed down my face. I was so happy that he was alright. From that day on, whenever he doesnt answer his phone, I develop this anxiety, i just have to trust that God will keep him safe as he travels somewhere.

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  27. A great article indeed. I can certainly relate. It's comforting to know I'm not alone. I have similar thoughts as in the article. Such as: Why is the other person not bothered when we are apart? How can we be apart and the other person not care? Why doesn't he care yet I care so much? The author has summed it up simply and clearly - the other person is secure and knows I'm not going anywhere - I worry he won't come back. Helps me to understand the why's I ask myself and can't understand. This disorder is so debilitating yet I find comfort in knowing I'm not alone - especially when loneliness triggers the anxiety. Thank you to the author for sharing and for all the people who have shared their thoughts as well. Best of luck in your journey to finding ways to cope and recover.

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  28. I cried while reading this article. It sums up a lot of how I feel when I am away from the one I love.

    I noticed that the symptoms started last summer when he went to California to be with his family for 2 weeks. I didn't go bc his family is from India and they do not approve of their son being with an American girl and the family asked that I not come. That was so hard, but we wanted to respect their wishes so I stayed behind. But what I didn't know was that while he was in California I was going to barely hear from him. I cried, I got angry, I became very depressed, anxious and had panic attacks. I barely slept for the entire two weeks he was gone. I thought what if his family brainwashes him and he ends our relationship? What if he meets a girl there and forgets about me? What is he doing? Is he thinking about me? Is he missing me as much as I miss him?

    If I text him and he doesn't respond in the mount of time I expect, I have so much anxiety! All these thoughts run through my head about what he's doing, why he isn't answering me, why I am still waiting. Even if it's like 10 minutes Uuuuuugh. But he is very good with me, so patient and understanding and loving.

    Help. I want to be a normal girl. I hate anxiety and irrational fear. It's so debilitating and it's really messing up my life! But mostly, I want to be a blessing to the one I love, not a curse. I want to fix this war in my head.

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  29. Mine started when I started 1st grade I couldn't leave my mom - I watched my 7 yr old brother drown I was only 5 so I think that's what brought it on but I've had it all my life I can't stand to be alone I panic & think the worse "what if" there's an earthquake , I drop dead or something happens to my loved ones & I'm not there. When my gr kids come visit I get so depressed when they leave I'm almost having a panic attack it's crazy I cry it hurts I try to fight the feeling but nothing helps

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  30. This is me to a T. I feel that I have transferred these feelings of anxiety from my relationship with my mother to my relationships. Whenever I had to be apart from my mum from any significant period of time (under the age of about 10) I would cry and experience overwhelming distress, terrified and convinced that something terrible was going to happen to her such as a car crash or murder (ridiculous I know). Now, at the age of 24, and in my 5th long term relationship, I am experiencing these feelings again, accompanied by aggression and anger if I feel that my boyfriend has neglected to maintain contact with me or is planning on being unfaithful. I manage to keep these emotions pretty well under-wraps to an extent, but nothing can disguise the depression that the anxiety surrounding my relationship reduces me to. I love my boyfriend so so much, he is a good person and i just want to love him whilst simultaneously managing to maintain my own sanity and happiness.

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  31. I may have a much different problem, but I have had several great job offers, but when I go the first day, I feel almost homesick. I want to return to my old job or just plain go home. Is the ASAD? I had a very trouble childhood, my mother was an alcoholic mother and my father died when I was 6. Could this be the cause for this?

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  32. I was looking for an answer today and found it! Full of tears, constant panic and my stomach in knots, I have been feeling so guilty about fighting with my boyfriend since he left to work out of the country for a month. I keep accusing him of cheating or neglecting me. I know he is at the end of his rope, but this is just so difficult for me. Everything mentioned above is exactly how I feel. I see people all around me who are normal and just go about their day without their spouse and do their separate activities so calmly. However, I keep torturing myself. But now at least I know there are others like me. If we keep repeating how much we are loved, maybe it will finally sink in. Chanting and meditation have helped some, but having it spelled out like this is such a relief!

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  33. I just happened upon this forum and it explains what I am feeling at the moment. My wife of 30 years is away with girlfriends at the moment and I am struggling to understand why she doesn't miss me. The strange thing is I encouraged her to go as I am often away for nights for work. During these times I miss her greatly but nothing like I am at the moment.
    I know I am being stupid but I keep thinking the worst about her finding someone else or enjoying being away from me and making it a regular thing.
    How can you control these emotions.
    I have made my feelings clear to her but I got no response

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  34. Wow. I did a quick google search and although I feel dreadful and all those feelings you all described and know so well, I'm glad I'm not the only one. My partner has left me once before for one night only and leaves me for two tonight to be with his children and I am feeling all of those crippling, sick feelings. I can't sleep, eat or stop crying. I too am scared I will lose him but also even more now about my irrational behaviour.

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  35. I am now motivated to get professional help as there are going to be many times in our relationship where we will need to be apart for a few days.
    Thank you so much for posting this.

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  36. I feel so connected to all the commenters. I have had this since God knows when and I've shifted my "subject" from family to spouse. I'm unable to function when I know I can't see him at the end of day and have cancelled all frd gatherings because I want to be around him. I now have no friends, which makes me cling onto him more, and then the cycle... I feel so damaged and envy those who can travel/spend alone time freely. My work is asking us to go somewhere for 4 days next month and I'm freaking out so much right now and I don't know what to do. This has completely taken over my life...

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  37. What can we do to get over this ? Thankfull my boyfriend of about 2 years and i are living together now but everytime we are apart i feel as if he IS cheating on me or he was going to and even whenever he is on the computer i feel as if he is trying to do something and when he leaves the room i immediatly panic and ask where he is going and the house we are in only has about 3 rooms ! i always get scared he is leaving me. i can't sleep alone or do anything without him i even quit my job for reassurance that he was totally being good . i'm glad i'm not alone

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    1. i always feel like im going to be cheated on too..its soooooo dumb to live this way so how do u stop it.

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  38. I lost my mother unexpectedly in April (best friend) and girlfriend of 7 years this past August (spent the night with another man). The girlfriend was my second best friend and everything buddy. Been a lousy year. The anxiety and emotions are overwhelming and in the case of the girlfrind not accurate. I manage one day at a time. Everything else in my life is near perfect yet I cannot shake the extremely intense anxiety of loss. Any suggestions how one re-gains control of their emotions?

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  39. Wow as a man I really have a hard time posting. But it is what it is, I have had sever separation anxiety from all my significant others in my life. It first kicked in when I was around 5 years old and could not stand it when my mother was not around. I grew out of it by the time I was about 12 but years later after I was married it kicked in again with my wife. I was sleeping on the couch one night and she had gone to the store when I woke up and she had not returned I had a panick attack and had my friend drive me to the store to see if we could find her, of course she was fine but from the night on it was back with a vengence, everytime she would be away from me I would be extremely anxious and if I thought she was gone to long I would actually go looking for her. Well we ended up divorced over other issues and I barely survived the separation/divorce but after I met my present wife I did everthing I could to keep my anxiety from coming on again, it did not work, although she will not allow it to overtake her, she travels for both pleasure and work and is very independent so I just have to deal with my separation axiety / she loves me and cares but will not be an enabler by giving in to my disease. It all sucks and I so wish it would not be part of my life. Im retired now and she still works so the days are long waiting for her to come home, I so desparately need to get this fixed.

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    1. Congratulations for posting! I read that men have a particular problem socially in terms of being expected to be emotionally independent, sometimes before they are ready for it. I don't know enough about your situation, but there is always a cause and effect. I think my symptoms were also due to having lived in 5 different places before I was 9, losing friends and things I had become used to, then there were dysfunctional codependent family issues on top of that. There are books out there that tackle this issue specifically in the case of men.

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  40. I am very pleased to have read this. I could write a long story with episodes spanning my entire life (I am now 42) that I can now justify as symptoms of ASAD. When I was searching around for possible causes of my anxiety attacks on the Internet last night and came across websites like this I realised that I had found the answer. I have done a lot of hypnotherapy in recent years, as I have a great therapist and we work well together. We have worked long and hard, and this got me from feeling crazy to realising the truth about my life situation as a child and to remedying the negative consequences of it. Now, having discovered that there is ASAD, then I am one major step closer to being able to lead a normal life, for the first time. Please, no-one be afraid of therapy. Working through everything from your childhood to now is a great adventure, not an easy one, but all of it is worth it. I have spent many sleepless nights trying to work it all out, and I know that had I not done that, I would never have been able to sleep peacefully in the future.

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  41. I just cant stop crying after reading this blog. Thanks for posting this. Thank you for letting me feel that im not alone and what i feel is normal (i mean normal for us who has this disorder).

    Mine is quite different from others. Since im attached with my bestfriends. It is very hard for me because I don't open this up to them. I dont want them to freak out. And the worst case is the separation between us might come true. I just kept it to myself and hopefully could answers to this problem.

    I was moved by your last sentence, "Accepting and understanding this is the first step at overcoming the disorder." So true, but so hard to do.. I dont know why.. I dont know how. But Ill do my best to make myself okay..

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  42. I cant believe that this is even a disorder! I have been suffering for a few years with anxiety and depression. My now husband and i had a rocky relationshiop and splip up a few times. Now we are working things out but my mind is obsessed with what is going to happen..what if he leaves me..finds someone else. I am way too emotional and starting to get way too clingy. I cry easly wonder why he doesnt want to be with me all the time. I am on a waiting list for counseling but now i KNOW what i suffer from and its this abandonment disorder. It is ruining my life and may end up ruining my marriage..i dont want to live like this and want a normal loving relationship and i know my husband is about done with my crazy emotions. If anyone wants to talk or has advice please email me! sh28nnon@ymail.com

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  43. I just was diagnosed with Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder, and when I came across this blog, and started to read it, I wanted to cry too, because this is what I have been going through. I didn't know that what I been doing is this disorder, and now since I am separated from my long time boyfriend, it is so horrible difficult. Thank you for this blog, and if anyone likes to email me too, my email is iad724@yahoo.com.

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  44. Thank you all for your posts, it is such a relief to know I am not alone and that others with this problem are coping with it! I have suffered from separation anxiety as long as I can remember. Unlike others on this forum, I cant pinpoint an event or events that may have started it, but think it is probably a combination of my personality and feeling neglected at times in my childhood.

    My biggest issue with my current partner (who is very independent) is being away from him at night, especially when going to bed. I can't sleep and think of all the horrible things that might have happened. I get very jealous about other women, and also feel unloved if he doesn't miss me when we are apart. It's more frustrating because when i am not in a relationship i am quite independent and happy to be alone.

    I am a psychologist and see people for anxiety regularly, but it is much easier to help others overcome their anxiety than my own! I see people asking what the treatment is and what can be done, basically it is the same as any other anxiety disorder. Depending on the severity, medication can be helpful in combination with talking therapies. The major exercise we do with clients is "exposure therapy" where the client ranks their fears from lowest anxiety level to highest, then slowly exposes themselves to each situation, learning bit by bit that nothing terrible happens. For example, the first step may be holding off phoning your partner for 30min longer than usual. The highest may be spending a week without them, etc. During the exposure it can help to use distraction, like reading a book or talking to a friend, and using other anxiety managemen like deep breathing/relaxation. Its hard to change the thinking without first managing the anxiety...

    That's what helps me anyway. I am still a long way from being okay with separation, but i can manage it. i may be biased, but i would recommend seeing someone like a therapist if you can, or just trying a little "exposure".

    It can be managed and you can lead a fulfulling life.

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  45. OMG. I've been married for about 30 years. I'm 56 years old and working with my wife overseas. Big adventure- and for the first time we are working in the same place doing more or less the same job.

    She get's handed a beautiful opportunity to go for a week to Italy for some training, and decides to take a couple of extra days to sight-see. After about 2 days apart with a very little text and facebook chat I got... well, insane comes to mind. It went like this: SHE always ends our conversations. SHE never responds to what I'm saying. She must absolutely love being away from me. Why don't we just get this over and get divorced --that sort of deal. Very angry. I stayed up all night fretting and was a wreck the next day. but I woke to a quick text from her, then later that evening we had a long and great (and sometimes frank) chat over FB. And another long text chat last night while she was on the train to Rome.

    She comes home tomorrow night, and I think I can make it until then. I feel pretty pathetic and embarrassed about how I didn't manage this. I can handle exposure to about a week apart as long as she's in contact with me every day but I hate every minute of it. I don't want to be controlling- I don't think this is about that. Well, it's ME I want to control. This has been an issue for our entire time together and it's not gotten a lot better. But finding out that maybe I'm not such a shit after all, and it might be some sort of problem I can sort of make better... wow. Thanks.

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  46. I was looking ASAD for someone else, when I realised a lot of what was written about it fit my own situation.

    I was close to my mum and had problems with school attendance, and wouldn't consider a proper education until years after my mum had died.

    I remember when I lived in another flat, and I'd agreed to meet my husband off of the bus. He didn't turn up and I went home. When he walked in I was crying. He asked why and I said I thought he'd left me. Turns out his bus had overshot the bus stop and he'd had to walk back!

    ASAD makes sense of why I feel this need to keep anyone I care about safe. It's for my sake.

    I'm being treated for Generalized Anxiety Disorder now, but I know that ASAD is often not diagnosed, because it's not even considered.

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  47. hi there,

    this sounds very much like the types of thoughts that go through the mind of someone with borderline personality traits. the good thing is that there are therapy techniques proven to drastically reduce symptoms and even eliminate any long-term recurrence...it's called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. i hope this is helpful, i'm sure its painful for you and your SO to work through. really good results from therapy on this kind of issue tho. much higher success rate than most other issues

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  48. Kiza25, Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am at the other side of the spectrum and I would like to know what is the solution to at least live a normal life?. I did not know about this disorder until last Friday. I am trying to help my 71 year old partner of 20 years who is at home by herself while I work. Any ideas?, please help.

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  49. This is me. I need a solution to this problem because things are getting out of control. Where can I get help before I ruin my relationship?

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  50. Hi, in the interest of sharing experiences I thought I would talk about my dealings with ASAD. Mine started as a young child being seperate from my mum, first when I would be left at my grandparents while my parents went out (albeit very rarely) and then when I started school at 4. I always had a bad feeling in my stomach that something would happen to them and they would die and never come home. I would often cry at my grandparents to the point that they thought I disliked them! My experiences settled down a lot in my teens but has now started up again as a 28 yr old with my husband. I am pretty sure this has been caused by a couple times when he has gone out with friends at night and not been home by the time he has said, and then I have been unable to contact him - leading me to have panic attacks. One time I couldnt contact him for 3 hours and it was past midnight, and then he called and was very drunk and asked me to pick him up from a train station, and then when I got there I couldn't find him for 15 minutes (at 2am!). While I am lucky he is a bit of homebody like me, I absolutely dread the few times a year he arranges to go out with friends bc I feel like something will happen to him. Deep down I know he is an adult and will be fine, but I still can't help the fear that sets in when he is uncontactable for more than an hour or so. This has been exaserbated recently by him losing his phone one night when out (resulting in me frantically calling him for 3 hrs. A few days later he went out for normal 30 minute jog and did not come back for over an hour. I seriously thought he had dropped dead on the side of the road, but when he got back he simply said he went on a leisurly walk instead, and was shocked that I was in a state of panic. To date our relationship has remained fairly unharmed by my condition (as it generally occurs when he is not around!), but more and more I am feeling like I need to open up to him about how I feel. Like some of you, I also avoid planning activities when i know he will be home, and feel rejected when he doesn't do the same, even though I know this is stupid because he doesn't go out often. I should say that I have never worried about him cheating on me - for me its always the fear of him dying. I truly hate feeling like this..

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  51. Thank you all for you comments. I have suffered from SAD for as long as I can remember and although I have learned to cope alot better than I used to, it still plagues me on a daily basis. I is nice to know that I am not alone in how I feel; makes me feel a little less ab-normal. I am glad to have found this discussion. In fact it has inspired me to maybe even start a blog of my own.

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  52. I have had thesee symptoms since the age of around 3, and occassionally before this. I had a horrible up bringing, was scared of my dad from an early age, but highly attached to my mother. One day she went away to not return for years untill I was removed from my father. I was lead to believe this was my fault. Then yrs later she reappeared when i was suddenly placed with her. I am still to this day over needy with my mother and now of my partner who thinks im irrassional and doesnt understand!I have been diagnosed with borderline personality dissorder now and think that this is a big contributer as i was in child services but his was never addressed.

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  53. I spent the afternoon crying as hard as I think was possible when I found out my husband had to go to a four day conference and I couldn't go. The truth is I can go but we can't take our four year old son. I feel like I am being asked to choose which arm to cut off. I ammo so glad I found this post. I literally Google "I don't ever want to be away from my husband. Is there something wrong with me?" I had never heard of ASAD but I definitely struggle with it. In the nearly 7 years we have been married we have only spent one night apart. It was the worst night. I hardly slept. I cried. I texted him. My mom has recently been diagnosed with advanced cancer. I spiraled into a mental breakdown but I realize that I have separation anxiety with her as well and eventhough she is getting better I am not feeling much relief. I am happy to know I am not the only one experiencing this. Has anyone had any success with any particular treatment?

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    1. I have gone to a therapist for years, it really helps as it is somewhere that you can lear techniques. The biggest one for me is when I start feeling anxious stopping for a second take a deep breath and realise that I is anxiety and that I can handle it before it becomes a problem. If I dwell on it and the "oh no, here it comes again Im going to have a complete meltdown...." then I most certainly do. And the biggest thing, this is who you are, dont beat yourself up for something you cant completely control, just realise it accept it and start working to 'shrug it off' WHich is easier said than done believe me I know, but its a start. Also try looking up guided meditaion on youtube. Can help calm your breathing and then the pounding heart and butterflies should slowly subside.

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    2. OMG, I can relate to that. It happens to me at work, and when I have to deal with stressful people I start to panic and feel like I am going to have a pantic attach rate in front of them. There are times I have to get up and leave the room to avoid a full blown attack. When dealing with people at my job and when they get angry I feel like they are going to attack and hurt me. I have not received any counciling as I have been hiding my problem. I hate living this way and don't know why. I also have separation problems with my adult children and grandchildren. I do not have a separation problem being away from my husband. Is that weird. I wish there was a quick cure but have lived like this my whole life. It is a relief to know I am not alone.

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  54. mY boyfriend and I had a huge blow up last night. He told me that I was mentally ill. He was angry because he couldn't go for a beer with his friends without me getting really upset. He said that he never sees his friends anymore and that I am mentally unhealthy. I treid to explain to him that it is because I love him so deeply that if he leaves me he won't know that I love him still. He is right, I am mentally unhealthy. She is absolutely right when she says it is a war in our heads. I dont want to lose my boyfriend that I love so much! he has been extremely patient with me and deserves the best. When I found out a few weeks ago that he had to leave for a week for a great new job he was getting, i panicked and started to cry. Which is so unfair to him. I am so glad to have found this post so I don't feel so alone and broken. Does anyone know anything about coping treatments? Anything that will help me deal with this crushing anxiety everytime he leaves the house.

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  55. Everything everyone has said is what I am experiencing at the moment with my mum. I didnt have a bad childhood I have been living in the same house all my life with both of my parents. So i guess i am having trouble dealing with the thought of leaving what i have known for 22 years and moving on to something else unknown. My separation anxiety first came up when i was about 8 and i couldnt stay at my friends house anymore as i would cry for my mum and just want to go home - i dont know what triggered it. It went away for a while but was still in the back of my mind where i would worry if mum hadnt come home by a certain time or would be anxious if i thought they didnt miss me and were having a great time at home without me. My brother is 30 and still lives at home - i have suspicions that he might have the same feelings as me but more of a social anxiety problem.

    I moved out with my ex boyfriend for 6 months a year or two ago and when i did move out i was hysterical and didnt know how i was going to cope without my mum around. after two weeks had passed i was ok but only because i had decided at the end of six months i would move back home and that made it easier to cope with knowing i was going back.

    Recently my anxiety has reached new heights, combined with uni and the stress of a new relationship i have been having panic attacks about finishing uni and maybe having to move out to get a job and then panicking about having to go to a new job - especially if it is far away from my mum. i stayed at my boyfriends house the other night and was physcially ill and crying because i was so anxious about being away from home. It is affecting our relationship beceause it is hard for me to see a future for us when all i can see is me wanting to stay at home forever with my mum. My thinking has also become obsessive i think about my anxiety thus triggering panic attakcs, think about close family members dying and then actually act the pain out that i would be feeling when nothing has even happened. I have trust issues about my boyfriend not because he has done anythign wrong but just my mind goes crazy thinking about where he is or who he is with.

    I am so sick of living with this, it is taking over my life! Combined with the stress of study and upcoming exams I do not know how i am going to cope. I am planning to make an appointment with the doctor and hopefully get some help. Has anyone had any luck with medication? The idea of the exposure technique is good but i am getting anxious just thinking about it. and then when i think about having meedication and no longer feeling anxiety when i am separated from my mum i feel guilty!

    Its a never ending cycle. :(

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  56. I am 53 and have had ASAD that started when I was 6 . I would get very upset on Sunday nights about school the next day and cry and bargain to stay home. As an adult I worry about something happening to family members and my attachment went from my mom to my husband and now to my children . I dread them moving out or not spending time with me. If I can't reach them I worry that something happened to them. I can't go away if I know that I will miss time with them even for a few minutes . If they are already at work then I can do something , but want to be back before they get home. So this does control the ability to do lots of fun things. It is comforting to know that I am not alone . Thanks for your post and may God heal us all . Ephesians 3:14-21 and Isaiah 26:3 journaling and Prayer helps alot .

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  57. Hey everyone

    I've been reading a book called the flight from intimacy. It talks about why people cling to others and goes through techniques that may help. The roots lie in developmental traumas early on in life. I too have some serious abandonment issues which is how I found this site...

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  58. omg...here I sit at 5:43 a.m......cannot believe everything I've just been reading......and I'm in there with you, one & all, too exhausted to describe all my experience with SAD but do know I've got it as a mature adult.......no doubt derived from the excessive childhood abuse I was forced to live..........For now I shall just agree with you all that it is absolutely debilitating and I am going to try to find some help for it........talking would be good for me I think...to try to find the right family councillor .......also yoga.......always wondered about a friend of mine's obsession with yoga.......think this is why she does it every day (also an abused childhood). And I know swimming and walking are really necessary. I wonder if I'll ever get to the point in my life when I'll actually enjoy something though the way I know other people do.......the happiness and laughter and pleasure.....I do try but the SAD is always the constant factor......I hope this dialogue continues.......

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  59. There's some helpful information on adult separation anxiety disorder at www.rethink-anxiety-disorders.com/adult-separation-anxiety-disorder.html . I identify with everything that's been said on this blog; this is a very difficult disorder to live with.

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  60. im experiencing it now. all of it, when i had the feeling that he was about to leave me i thought i was gonna die literally, tears in my eyes wont stop no matter what and i had headaches like crazy. i was standing in from of my office and i felt that if i take one more step ill collapse on the ground. i felt like vomiting and all. i never loved anyone before, so loving someone right now even when we're from a distance is hard for me. i feel more pain than happiness right now. it hurts and i miss him like crazy even whe im talking to him!!!! i identify with everything said there. honestly i dont know why im acting out like this, partially i know the reason why and when i think about it, i become rational and let it flow. but i know i think too much. i mean, i can reverse my thinking but that is not easy. i dont know what my end goal is for now. i dont even kno how our relationship will last. i just admitted i loved him and it drives me crazy. but somehow knowing my illness (anxiety) helps me to cope up. guys im soo thankful that im not the only one feeling this, i need to live normally. i cant anymore. i need help. i cant function that well with or without him. that is why i need to reaarrange my thinking and life. i need to cope and help myself. i know i can't do it alone and i know he truly loves me. the anxiety comes from within, my own personal thinking. sometimes i wish i didnt have this type of thinking but i cant help it. had i known it would hurt soo bad to love someone i would have opt not to. but its there already, and i cant do a thing about it. i need help. i admit, and i cant do it alone. he wants to help him, the way i want to take his nightmares away. someday i want us to last. its a wishful thinking but im hoping as well. i wanna keep this blog since i feel like its a support group. its really helpful.

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  61. i love the way you said it!!! i mean! shit right?? we need to control OURSELVES not the other person. THE WAY WE THINK AND HANDLE THINGS.. they love us, soo much, we know that, its our fucking brains that dont function well. i feel for you. and i know i am the same.

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  62. I am 52 and carry dx of generalized anxity and bipolar disorder. The anxiety I feel is so crippling and is always centered about the woman I love. Actually I am not generally so anxious or manic unless the woman I am with triggers me. The triggers could be forgetting to call, talking about an ex bf or cancelling weekend visits. She is away this week and not being able to talk to er is extremely difficult. I also obsess about her past relations to the point of exhaustion. Why I do this is perplexing,exhausting and seemingly hopeless. I have had this for decades and would do anything to reach a peaceful place.

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  63. I am so glad to have found this place. I'm 21 and I have ASAD with my mom. She has been an addict for most of my life. My dad is not a very warm or compassionate person and he resents my mom intensely because of the way her drug use affected him. This exacerbates my anxiety because I know that if my mom needs help or is in trouble he won't help her. It makes me feel powerless. He is extremely intolerant of my anxiety and I can't even talk to him when I start feeling scared. He either teases me about it or yells at me. I am completely dependent on him at this point. No drivers license, no job, not in school. I started having panic attacks when I was 8. The SAD started when I was in middle school. More recently I have developed OCD. For years I have lived in constant dread of something happening to my mom. I would make my mom call me when she arrived at work and when she left. If she was late calling me or coming home I would lose my mind. My mom is my best and only friend and the only person in the world who understands me. I feel like if I lost her I would have nothing left. I have no friends and my parents are my only family. I will have a step family soon, but we are not close yet. I'm on meds for anxiety and depression. They help, but I can still become sick with fear at times. In 2 days my mom is going into treatment 2 hours away. It's for 3 months, possibly longer. She can call me after the first month, but visitation is complicated and that worries me. There are also a million other little things I'm worried about that may or may not be reasonable. I know this is a long winded and somewhat off topic post, but I've never told any of this to anyone. Before I discovered this blog, I felt like a freak and a crybaby. I thought separation anxiety was something that only happened to little kids. Like many of you, I started crying as I read the comments. I couldn't believe there were other people with the same problem. I'm so glad that I'm not alone. Good luck to you all.

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  64. I just turned 18 and have been dating my boyfriend from college for about 3 months now. I've been feeling extremely anxious every time he leaves me, to the point where him going to the bathroom for more than a few minutes make me feel irritable and upset and like he doesn't love me. I had very abusive parents that physically and emotionally abused me throughout childhood that I JUST got away from, and I have been suicidal at times (I used to cut and take pills). I somehow forced myself out of that, but I feel like this separation anxiety has grown out of my depression. People don't ever see anything wrong with me, though, because I never show it and seem very happy and casual on the outside. On the inside, however, it's eating at me. For example, it's nearly 7 am and I haven't been able to sleep even though I'm dead tired, because my boyfriend left to his room a few hours ago and I'm alone.

    I'm sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest. This article has helped so much. It's easier to recognize that this is all in my head, even if it seems very real.

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  65. Thank you so much, this post was of great comfort to me. My husband is out of town for one week and my mind has been spiraling into such dark and negative places. It feels like he has abandoned me. The trigger for me was when he didn't call for two days.

    I thought I would be excited to eat my favorite foods, watch junk TV on Netflix, but I'm miserable and very afraid (of what, exactly, I don't know).

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    1. I feel the same way about my boyfriend every single time he goes back to home to the state he lives in. -513

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  66. I have read most of the comments here, and I can't tell if what's going on with me is the same thing or something slightly different. I am ok when my husband is away for a week. Even if he can only text me a few times while he is away. I am still happy and do things I would do normally. I know he loves me and isnt doing anything wrong.
    However, I can't sleep in our bed. I can't say why, I just can't bring myself to sleep there when he is away. So I sleep on the couch, and the television stays on to create an illusion for myself that I am not alone when he is gone.
    He is now away for a little over a month for work, and being in the military, he will be busy and most likely unable to contact me at all. I feel like once he left, I stopped functioning normally. I cried the instant he hugged me goodbye, and have been deeply depressed ever since. I know that he will come back to me. I realize that its not a huge amount of time, but it feels like every day drags on and is much longer than it should be. I can't stay asleep and I have dreams of being left behind in big places I have never actually been. I don't want to move or eat, but I know that is unhealthy so I force myself to do so. Sometimes I feel a little better but I still don't want to do anything. And I feel like I need constant interaction or my mind is idle and sad again. Nothing actually makes me feel better. Just occupied for a little while. While I have a normal concern for my military man, that's not what is disabling me. I am just sad knowing I am so alone in a place where I don't know anyone, knowing that I will have no communication. So I am lost. It almost feels like he is gone forever. Even though I know that is not the case, I can't rearrange my mind to cope with the very show passing time while I am alone.

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  67. I have all of those symptoms and they are all towards my boyfriend. We have a long-distance relationship (he lives in another state 2 hours away) and we both only get to see each other 2 times a month. When one of us leaves each other to go back home, I panic and become very terribly depressed. I have a constant fear of losing him, to an accident, to another girl, to work or anything else that he may be involved in, whether it makes sense or not. It's been 3 months and I always feel the same.
    BUT, I was not abused or abandoned as a child. These feelings came to me only when I started going out with him. I also had Separation Anxiety Disorder with my mother when was a child going to kindergarten, and that lasted for 2 years but I got over it.

    Drowning myself with college work is my only coping mechanism for now, and meditating (because it is a place of complete peace AND time passes very quickly). I am always tired and sleep-deprived no matter how early I sleep or how many naps I take.

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    1. Wow, wow, wow, and thank you for boldly sharing this.

      I think you and I are years apart, but we share the 'boyfriend only' thing when it comes to the sep anx.

      Someone recently suggested thought stopping and I am going to see if it works. In a nutshell, whenever one of "those" thoughts (or tidal waves of them) begin, tell it "go away" and mean it. You can hold up a mental hand in your head, get in the 'face' of the negative thought, and tell it to shove off. Don't let it get in and mess with your head. See if it works.

      I think we give up a lot of what I call personal power when we just accept our thoughts...Know what IS not what you think is.

      Be well, stay happy, and focus on thing you love about you. I already see there is a lot to be happy about. :)

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  68. It is good to know that I am not alone. I feel for all of us who have to deal with ASAD. Reading all this today made me realize how... real everything is. It's indeed a war that's being held within the mind and I have felt so desperate and alone in dealing with my inner demons. I always needed to know where my boyfriend was at, not to check up on his actions, but just to know that he is fine and safe. Every time he had to leave town for whatever reason, I would panic and act irrationally, cry a lot, feel as if the sky would crash ontop of me and shatter everything. I started neglecting my friends, became a loner, adapted to his life style even if I disagreed with solid parts of what it was like. I tried to pull away from it a few times but it only felt worse. After each panic attack, I would realize how irationally I had behaved and then felt shameful and guilty about it. In all my most sincere attempts to preserve the relationship, all I managed was to push him further away. We've been at it for 2 years now and we broke up/made up about 6 or 7 times already (I stopped counting). I never had self esteem issues and, in any other life situation, do not have self esteem issues... yet I live in fear of him tiring of me or finding something better. I laugh bitterly at the thought, because I wasn't always like this. I'm not sure what triggered it. I had a good childhood and have loving parents, but somehow ended up trapped in this horrid ASAD regarding him. It's like my life seems to be fine and normal in most situations, but when it comes to my relationship, it's like my mind switches to the freaking Twilight Zone. I have learned a great deal in searching for a name to my condition, and have fought off other inner demons... I am glad to know that I am not alone, and I am glad to have found out that I'm not uniquely ambiguously insane, but that this is a real disease. Because I now know that it is a real disease, I feel I can now fight it. Until now, it was like fighting a ghost. It still scares me, but I strive to find hope, enough hope to cast away all the fear and all the panic attacks.

    It always hurt to see how all my efforts were actually pushing him away. I felt it was unfair since all that I did, even my irational behavior (which I regret) was because of the sincere love I have for him. It felt unfair to me not to have him react with the same neediness and I felt that I was wronged to the core. "But I love him, I prove my love every day, how can he be so distant?!" ...I now have a different answer to that, thanks to having read this website. Had I known from the beginning...

    I kicked smoking a while ago. When I was overhwelmed by irrational feelings because of the nicotine abstinence syndrome, I kept thinking to myself that no matter how AWFUL it might feel or how DESPERATE the craving would get, this is just the consequence of a chemical imbalance due to the abstinence syndrome and thus NOT my real thoughts or feelings, thus I should not act upon them for they are not genuinely mine. It didn't lessen how hard it felt, but it sure helped in dealing with that hardship. Eventually, I thought, it will get better, but it will only get better after it feels worse. And I was right. Maybe we can use such a thought pattern in casting some or all of our ASAD away. I sure hope so, and I do send my best wishes to all of you who are struggling. It is important to know what we are up against, so that we stand a chance in fighting it and being victorious. I strongly believe that we can do this and wish each and every one of you the best of courage, luck and love.

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  69. Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone here. (Can’t say ‘thank you’ enough.)

    For the better part of 30 years, I have known at a very deep level, there is something “wrong” with my attachment style (though I didn’t call it that when I was a kid or a teen). And, specifically, it is 'broken' when it comes to romantic relationships. My anxiety kicks in when I fear the one I love will find someone "better" and leave. I have believed for most of my life that I was just profoundly insecure and it was my job to suck it up and get over it.

    I have a MA in education, am an artist, writer, blogger, and business person who is very connected to many good and kind people. I have a teenage daughter who is the light of my life (and so very confident and happy). I’m normal, mostly happy, and enjoy a variety of activities from church to singing to community theater – all social and all positive things.

    I’ve divorced, on the far end of a decade of trying to date. Two men in 10 years. Oddly enough I broke with both (and broke both engagements) – not because of anxiety but because they simply were not good for me; and, I had, essentially, chosen them. I have not been pursued, ever and perhaps the endings have been easier because I didn’t begin as someone’s target? There is a distinct difference choosing and being chosen.

    Right now, all those old and awful familiar feelings of “what if” are staring me in the face daily. In February, I connected with a fellow who is actively pursuing me and it is, mostly, fantastic. He is unlike the other men in that he is confident, busy in his life, engaged with hobbies and activities he enjoys. He gives back by volunteering in his community several ways, he has an abundance of healthy friend relationships, is close with his family members, and regularly takes and makes time to be in touch with me to say he loves me or how happy he is that we are “we.” And I am thrilled. And I know I should be considerably more happy but my anxiety is in the way of enjoyment much of the time. Ugh.

    And terrified. Absolutely, to the bone, terrified.
    Because the broken part of me convinces me he’ll leave or find someone else or cheat or grow weary of me in some fantastical way.

    And I already *know* he is a good man.
    The first 13 months of my life were spent in and out of either a foster home or Lenox Hill Hospital. I was finally healthy enough to be adopted and went home with a nice couple… but the woman, my adoptive mother, is textbook 1) narcissist and 2) alcoholic, and was 3) entirely dismissive and cruel. I never knew where I stood with her and she was always changing the rules of engagement.

    The coping method I have adopted (no pun intended) is to “fake it until I make it” and literally pretend there’s nothing bothering me and that it is all in my head. The fears, the bad training about how people who love you are prone to head-games and meanness.

    This man wants to marry me.
    And I would like to marry him, when the time is right.
    And until that time, to make things even more challenging, we live seven hours apart, visiting every 8 weeks or so…

    I can do this without drugs or more therapy. And, I hope, without laying myself at the feet of any further anxiety that need not exist.

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  70. Hi, I'm not alone then. I am 66 years old, happily married female, but have found a new "best friend", older than me with an great personality. She makes me laugh and we enjoy doing things together, but I have this terrible need to speak to her all the time which I try to control. She has just stayed with us for the weekend and had a great time, but has now gone home about 200 miles away and I miss her quite crazily. I worry about her as she lives alone, but she has other friends, so I don't really need to. Thought I was going mad until I read about ASAD. I'm sure my husband would think I'm bananas. At this moment, I have palpitations, I'm not very hungry and she is on my mind all the time.

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  71. I am relieved to finally have an actual mental illness associated with what I have been dealing with for the past 12 years. I think I have a pretty extreme case of ASAD, which isn't terribly reassuring, but I know I am not alone. I never had to deal with any abuse or real neglect as a kid...my parents did divorce when I was little, however, and I always felt obligated to protect my mom and worry about her (I am an only child). I started dating my now husband in high school, but my anxieties about losing him in an accident didn't really arise until college. We were only about 2 hours apart and I saw him at least every other weekend, but when we were apart and would plan times to talk, if he wasn't around exactly at that time, I would immediately freak and call back over and over (and it was a land line, so his roommates would answer the phone every 2 minutes. I was embarrassed but couldn't control myself).
    To make a long story short, fast forward 10 years and my anxiety levels have only escalated. I am not jealous and I am actually very confident and have no anxiety in any other areas of my life, but what my husband has to put up with is amazing. Basically every time he has to be in the car for more than 15 minutes I panic, and I insist that for every car ride he be on the phone with me (even though I know that this is ironically less safe). Basically, the only way I learned to deal with my fears is to try to control my spouse. Over night trips are basically out of the question, and it's getting to the point that if he has to travel more than an hour and a half away I completely freak out and obsessively think about the car accident, him not answering the phone, him choking on an apple, etc etc. And if he doesn't answer the phone after a little bit chances are I'll get in my own car and start driving to where he is, even though I know I am acting ridiculous. It's like I have this fight or flight response and I have to go save him. OY.
    If you set aside my fears, we have a wonderful marriage. We have a little girl now, so I have to get this in check so that I can be there for her even when her daddy has to be away. My worst fear is that I'll completely panic and put her in danger.

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  72. I have quite literally thought that I am the only person who feels so extremely crippled with separation. I am 19 years old, and have suffered with an extreme case of ASAD since as far back as I remember from my mom. Every time she would have a business trip come up, I would cry and tell her not to go and because of this, she had to turn down lots of opportunities. I'm 19 and I'm still very much this way and its embarrassing and scary because i should be at a time in my life where i'm out being independent and enjoying 'being free' from my parents, but I'm still stuck at home, too afraid to move far away. Trips with friends, which should be exciting and always fairly short (4-5 nights) are crippling and I obsess about it constantly, considering whether I should just cancel all together rather than deal with all the worry and stress that comes with it because all I think about is, what if while I'm away, something happens? What if she gets in a car accident? What if she falls ill and I'm not there? Its a constant broken record in my head and I feel like I'm going insane.
    Lately, my other anxiety problems have gotten worse and its gotten very hard on my family. I feel extremely guilty with every panic attack and every freak out, but I can't control how my body and my brain reacts to certain events, and separation is one of the biggest things holding me back in life. I love my mom and I quite literally can't imagine what life would be like without her.
    The thing is, I never had any abuse of any sort. My parents didn't/don't have the best relationship and there's a past of drug and alcohol abuse that I've watched as a child, but I have never been harmed and my parents are both very loving and good parents. So I can't imagine why I developed so many anxiety problems. One theory is that while my mother was pregnant with me, the doctor told her she was going to lose me. My mom, already having two children, couldn't take care of me during her pregnancy as is recommended and because of that I was, according to the doctor, going to die. But could something like that possibly be the cause of a mental disorder? I'm not sure.
    I feel crazy, I'm embarrassed, and I feel terrible that my family has to put up with me and my irrational thoughts. It really is a scary thing to live with.

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  73. thank you so much for this post. now I understand why I feel this way with my partner. she left to work in another country. everyday im worried that shell find someone else better than me. when she goes out with friends I panic! i couldnt sleep. I felt like killing myself to end my misery.I always ask her to love me and make me feel she does. i alaways think shes cheating on me. thank you for this

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  74. Thank you for posting this. I could echo every single word above that you wrote. I am trying to fight the irrational fears - to combat the anxiety - to tell myself yes I will see my beloved again when they are apart, and yet in those moments of sheer panic there seems to be NOTHING rational I can say that will help me. Professionals (doctors etc) don't seem to grasp the severity of the condition. I have had CBT although probably very basic CBT which has done NOTHING to help me.

    Want to up the fear ante a few million notches? Try calling your significant other when you are in your anxiety mode....and they don't answer the phone. Or they tell you they will be home at 7 p.m., and now it is 8 p.m. and they are nowhere to be found, and you call their cell phone and no answer. THOSE types of scenarios send me in sheer absolute crying my eyes out panic. Then they will come home, say they were stuck in traffic couldn't answer the phone cause they were driving and look at me all wide-eyed in a stupor because here I am curled up on the floor crying essentially planning their funeral.......

    anyone relate to that?

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    1. Thanks for this post and all the comments. I feel less alone now.
      Pinkers, I can completely relate to that entire scenario. I am the exact same way with my partner. I wonder whether this era of cell phones actually exacerbates the problem, because you expect the other person to always be reachable, and then when they're not it takes the panic to a whole new level. I have so much anxiety around the phone. Those times when I start to panic about her whereabouts and I give in and dial her number (against my better judgment because I know I'm being irrational), those first few rings are excruciating. I'm already convinced she isn't going to answer and then if she doesn't my mind goes to the absolute darkest possible places. Same thing every single minute past the time when she's supposed to be home. When I finally do hear from her I cry with relief, then feel ridiculous.
      To add to all this I also worry that this will end our relationship because it did end my last one; I didn't realize how stifling I was being and my partner didn't tell me until she snapped. Now I'm so worried that will happen again that I try to keep my excessive worry somewhat under wraps. But my partner knows, of course. She seems compassionate about it, if a bit baffled.
      I have also had CBT but it doesn't seem to have done much...

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    2. Hi Pinkers,

      I am a student journalist from the University of Technology, Sydney, and I'm currently working on a major project about Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder.

      I am looking to talk to someone who suffers from the disorder. If you feel comfortable, I would love to chat with you about your experience.

      My email is: 11021300@student.uts.edu.au

      Do not hesitate to ask me any questions about the nature of my project.

      Tess

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    3. Pinkers, yes I have done this in the past, I now make sure that I don't phone or text when I am feeling like this, but wait until I feel a little more calm. Otherwise I would just keep ringing and ringing until he picks up. Then when I put myself in his shoes I think I wouldn't put up with it but he does. I love my husband and am going to make this work, I know it's hard but I have to try to control this behaviour before it become the end of us. Good luck I am waiting for my husband to come home after being away for three weeks, I will be the same, I will sob like a baby when I see him, but then be upset that he doesn't do the same, but he is used to this and is very patient with me. If that doesn't show me how much he loves me I don't know what does and this is what I keep reminding myself of.

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  75. I am not sure if SAD is what i have,although i am quite suspicious that it is.
    I am in a long distance relationship with a wonderful man for over 3 years. We are now making plans to move together and because it makes more practical sense for me to move (work wise), we decided I would be the one moving halfway across the world. But ever since we have decided this i feel so anxcious all the time...i wake up with a heavy heart...sadness engulfs me...I think I have seperation anxiety with everything that is familiar and not just with one person. The idea of seeign my parents/friends maybe once a year is too much to handle and i feel like my head is about to explode from stress.

    is there anyone on here that has experienced soemthing similar?

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    1. hi im also like this! i cant stop crying and my emotions are so heavy! i dunno why but my fiancee love me so much and even proposed on me in front of people during birthday. we been together for 2 weeks and after that he needs to go back to CA and i need to stay here in PH where I live. i dont miss him before i meet him in person but after i saw in meet him finally in person this month i felt so depressed after he left coz he need to go back to CA for work. i always remember the things and places we went to. i cant even go out now coz im scared i might remember our memories in that place. i know we have no problem and i know he really loves me coz from the day he went back to CA we are always on skype even when his working. he said he will be back here on sept and dec this yr until we are together he even left his some important things to me but still i felt broken hearted that we are apart for now for awhile. im worried that I have extreme separation anxiety from my fiancee. i cant control my emotions... its killing me God help me! :(

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    2. I'm going through the exact same situation, my partner asked me to move to Europe in order to be together, we have been together for 4 years in a long distance relationship and we love each other very much, but I am too attatched to my family and i just CANNOT deal with the fact that I won't see my mom, dad and brother in 12 months, I wake up evey morning with nausea, or when I think about this, my partner expects me to move in about 1 month, I am seriously thinking it over cuz it brings me so much pain and anxiety to know that i will be away from all the people that love me the most. I am so scared and don't know if i will be able to make this step :(

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  76. Pinkers and others...... I didn't know there were other people that suffer the same way I do. I am very close with my best friend she is happily married I am divorced. She is extremely supportive and understanding.... but I totally freak out when we're apart. The thought of her going away with her husband scares me to death. I'm on antidepressants for depression but I also suffer from panic disorder and PTSD. I was sexually abused as a child and ha abusive marriage lost a child and was sexually and verbally abused in my marriage. There are times where I'm okay with being separate... but there are other times when my panic disorder kicks in but the thought of being separate terrifies me.

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  77. I had no clue so many people thought the same way as me. Reading this makes me feel just a little bit better. I love my girlfriend so much, we've been together for almost 2 year, we do everything together, even with our families. She used to live in my neighborhood, so it was so easy just to walk on over and be with her. When she moved to her dad's house, I thought it was going to be tougher for her to see me. We've become so comfortable with each other. Whenever I call her, or text her now, and she doesn't respond right away, I freak out. Even when she comes over, I always tell her to let me know when she gets home. Sometimes she forgets, so then I panic and stare at my phone, waiting for it to buzz. I love her so much, and she's even aware of how I can get paranoid about these things. We've never argued with or tried to hurt each other, so the last thing I want is to ruin my great relationship. I can't find somebody else as sweet and kind as her out in this sick world. I guess that's why I get paranoid. I sometimes feel like this is all too good to be true. I wish there was a really easy way of dealing with this, but just telling it to other people feels good already.

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  78. I have been ashamed and embarrassed that this is exactly how I am, and it has caused many issues in relationships. I don't know how to help myself and have spoken to a therapist about it but get to a point where I am embarrassed to even tell her how I am. Does anyone have any suggestions on books to help with this or more info on why, how to help etc?

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  79. I have this and it just suddenly come on, my boyfriend works away from monday to friday and has done for the past 3 years, and not once has it bothered me. But now he'll be going back in a day and the thought of it sends me overboard. i cant stop crying, appetite has gone, not sleeping properly. I just cant stop thinking that i wont be able to cope when hes gone and keep thinking about how long it is till he is back. I can not keep my mind off it, im thinking about it all the time. Has anyone else had it like this?

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    1. Yes,I go through this on a weekly basis, for months. I cry, don't eat well, can't sleep. I don't know what to do. I'm at a loss. someone email me christine_capdevielle@yahoo.com. Maybe we can help eachother through this.

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  80. Can anyone share an ASAD experience involving panic, anxiety, and emotional distress as it relates to your only young teenage child, son or daughter? Mt god, this disorder is so crippling. Thank you for sharing.

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  81. Specifically, is anyone so crippled with fear, depression and anxiety from being physically separated from their only child, either a young teenage son or daughter? Thank you.

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  82. It seems that I have this disorder. While most of you still have the chance to save your relationship with the other person, I, on the other hand, have found that it's already too late.

    I had suspicions that maybe there was something wrong with me, but I did think that I have valid grounds for doubting my guy's feelings for me. Ultimately, I found out that my ex-boyfriend was two-timing me. I can't be sure if it's because he grew tired of me since I was being too "dependent" or the like, or he's just a jerk, or most probably, both. Of course I don't mean to scare you or to add to your paranoia. Looking back, I must admit that I have had ASAD; and it might be one of the reasons he two-timed me.

    Moreover, with our disorder, I think your partner would choose to conceal or lie to you because he/she knows how you would react. So I really hope that you're lucky with your present partner, because you can't really be sure of his/her feelings for you.

    I'm single right now, but I'm feeling better because experiencing that disorder all over again is like going through hell. Going through that felt like being rewarded with a piece of candy when you were giving your entirety to the other person. It felt really unfair.

    Right now, I feel that being romantically alone is so much better than being in that kind of relationship. I'm just afraid of how I'm going to be in my next relationship. I really hope I become a better person.

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  84. It's amazing how many people suffer this, I go through this every time I have to go away from my parents or from my partner. I am affraid it gets worse with time.

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    1. Hi soontobepopstartou,

      I am a student journalist from the University of Technology, Sydney, and I'm currently working on a major project about Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder.

      I am looking to talk to someone who suffers from the disorder. If you feel comfortable, I would love to chat with you about your experience.

      My email is: 11021300@student.uts.edu.au

      Do not hesitate to ask me any questions about the nature of my project.

      Tess

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  85. BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE ANITA AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 7YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW THIS PHONE NUMBER ONLINE +447012926136 ABOUT MR ODIGIE SPELL IN LONDON AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HIM A CALL.HE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND £500 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS SO I HAVE TO END THE CALL AS I HAVE PAID OVER $7000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR BECAUSE OF ANITA SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HIM A TRY SO I CALLED HIM AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE £340 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS HE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE ANITA AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW ANITA ONLINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFFLINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ONLINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL MR ODIGIE THE NEXT DAY THANKING HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HIM AND THANK HIM AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT ANITA PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A LOVE SPELL THEN CALL MR ODIGIE NOW +447012926136 OR EMAIL HIM (odigie24hourslovespell@outlook.com)

    Sincerely,Jenkins Smith Chicago USA.

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  86. i'm from Philippines and my boyfriend then (my husband now) is from Australia., we started off on a long distance relationship, and communication is really vital., i get really anxious and upset if i don't know what he's doing or where he's going, but can't really get mad at him for fear of him breaking up with me so i always kept it to my self and the feeling is soooo horrible. i'm thankful that he didn't thought or felt that i was kind of "monitoring" his movements and enjoys my attention. but i don't want to push it too far. now that we're together and married, I'm savoring the all the times together. but recently he got a thought of trying for the air force as a mechanic. i immediately broke down thinking of the worst scenario (like he'll be sent to wars and he'll be away from me for months or years or much worse, be killed). I don't want to hold him back though if it that's what he really wanted. and it is now a struggle for me. it helped knowing that i'm not alone that experience this kind of anxiety. and i hope that i'll overcome this soon.

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  87. LISTEN UP EVERYONE! NO ONE HERE IS CRAZY, WEIRD, ARE W/E ELSE I'VE READ... I'M 32 AND HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH THIS SINCE AGE 4. TRIED EVERYTHING FOR YEARS AND NOTHING SEEMED TO WORK... RECENTLY TRIED (SHAMANIC HEALING), CHANGED MY LIFE COMPLETELY! SOOOO MUCH HAPPIER WITH MY EVERYDAY LIFE AND NO MORE "CRAZY/WEIRD" THOUGHTS, JUST A BLISSFUL LIFE TO LIVE - JUST LIKE IT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE FOR ALL OF US. THOSE THOUGHTS ARE NOT US, WE ALLOW THE THOUGHTS TO ACTIVATE AND THAT'S WHAT CONTROLS US.... I REALLY HOPE THIS HELPS LIKE IT DID FOR ME. I UNDERSTAND WHAT EVERYONE IS GOING THROUGH - VERY POSSIBLE TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER :)

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  88. I was surprised to find this blog. I haven't been sure what I was feeling and now to know that there are others out there that feel the same way is very comforting. I was surprised to find so little on the web so I created a group on FB. Hopefully it will help us all yo have a support group.https://www.facebook.com/groups/227890237370032/

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  89. Add one more male 46 to the group I think my divorce is the stem of my problem as I do not recall ever having an issue in the past

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  90. No doubt that Dr peter of a spell casting temple is a reliable spell caster because of all he has done for me in the past few months. He helped resolve my broken marriage. My name is vike ane. and at a time my husband was cheating on me with some Chinese young girl he met online and his affair with this Chinese girl want on for a very long time before i even knew about it. Well at the time i discovered he was cheating on me it was already too late cos he was already asking me for a divorce. I finally got to know the name of the girl and there usual hotel where they met to have sex, I felt like a complete fool when i got to know all this. For three straight years my husband was unfaithful to me and i never noticed. The question that kept popping in my head was how did it happen how did we even get to this stage where we where right then. It was on our usual Friday thanks giving day he told me he was seeing some one else and no longer want to be married to me. He said i deserve somebody better than him and that i deserve to be happy as if i told him am not happy with what we had as a family. Crying at that instant just seemed stupid so i held myself until my kids went to bed. He came up with it again telling me our married has been based on pretense now that hit me and all the pain i held inside came out. Really? Pretense and we had four lovely kids and just a day before you claimed to love and now all these was just based on pretense? Then i told him to his face, you not getting a divorce and then we started fighting and he hit me for calling the princess from china cheap prostitute and worked out of the house slamming the door violently.I did sue him for hitting me but dropped it cos it will only push him away cos the court was going to give him a restriction order and when that happens he is free to take off with his Chinese lover which was as hell not going to happen.He told our kids that we were splitting up but he will be there for them. How is that even possible when he will be building a family with his new partner. It was during all the mess i got to know about Dr peter of spell casting temple cos words had it on the internet that he is a reliable spell caster that it turned out true.I contacted him for help and he told all i need to do excluding paying for his services all i was to do was provide the material for the spell which i could now not, But i rather sent him the money for the materials which believe is much faster, Cos the materials in question will be so hard for me to get here. He told me that the spell will take about two days to became effective. During that period of two days my husband started stocking i guess he we wanted to know if i have started seeing someone else and before i know how next move he ended things up with the Chinese girl and then he came bagging telling me that for the past three days that was during the time my spell caster place a spell him, he could not stop think about me that he still love me. I finally let him be my husband again and now all he does is shower me with love much more than he ever did. Thanks to Dr peter my reliable spell caster if you need his help also in matters that is worst than this one, Cos in this temple i made mentioned of, There no problem that they can handle. Get to this great, Reliable spell caster via email: ayokospellcaster@gmail.com



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  91. So many of us!! I have just realised over the last year, I was extremely close to my mum and and she ran off with my dads friend when I was 16, its left a deep scar which only rears its head when I start new jobs, go away from home, but especially when I get involved in relationships, Ive been in back to back relationships for the last 4 years (only 2 of them) and after the last break up the anxiety was mind blowing!!! I cant even contemplate getting into another until I can get my terrified mind used to be alone again, its happening, very slowly but its happening!! Thats the key I think, getting to a place where your happy on your own, and then trying to maintain that independence into your relationships... which is the hard part because our subconcious mind clings to these attachments like they are life or death, literally! I cant even date at the moment as the need to reconnect with someone is so strong I get separation anxiety after the date!! annoying as ive met some great girls but cant contemplate a relationship until I feel strong and independent again, may take a while which scares me as in 37!!

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  92. When I take my nightly shower it starts. The sadness and depression follow me to morning when I get up and realize I am alone. The knots in my stomach, the churning fear, the sadness of the idea that if I leave my home for anything, my husband wont come home to me. Yes it is irrational, yes it isn't logical, but it is reality right now. Abandoned by my father at 7, my mother and siblings gave no help when I was being bullied and as a latchkey kid, I was pretty much doomed for panic. I have run from all my relationships except until now. The idea of allowing myself to fully love someone comes the nagging feeling that they might leave or even worse, BUT one thing keeps me moderately sane. The thought that we cannot control life. We can control what we eat, read, ect, but if that person we are so connected to decides to leave us, we cannot control that, and in that realization it gives me strength to let life flow as it comes. Yes I am nervous, yes I get sad, but I know in my heart, that if he chooses to not participate in my life, it A. wont kill me, and B. will be his loss. I know that I can never abandon myself and my needs and I am fully capable of fulfilling those needs and really what the fear is, is loss. But I gently remind myself it is ok to feel that, I remember I cannot control his decisions, and it helps me get through my day. Hugs to you all.

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  93. It started when I was three. I could never go to camp, sleepovers, not even after holiday care. Id vomit, shake uncontrollably and cry until I knew I was heading home to my parents. Now I'm 33 and my girlfriend of 6 years has left me. She put up with years of constant texting until I got an answer, forcing her to cancel appointments, hanging out with friends, etc and i did the same. The only holidays ive taken are with her. Since the break up, ive been crying constantly, agitated and completely helpless. I wish id found this site sooner as I know im not just a 'dedicated boyfriend' anymore. I need professional help.

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  94. My name is sarah dixon, am from Dublin. i want to use this opportunity to thank my great doctor who really made my life a pleasurable one today. This great man DR.OLUWAKEMI brought my husband back to me, i had 2 lovely kids for my husband, about 3 years ago i and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me for one lady. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, until one day i met a good friend of mine that was also in a situation like me but her problem was her ex-boyfriend who she had an unwanted pregnancy for and he refused to take responsibility and dumped her. she told me that mine was a small case and that i shouldn't worry about it at all so i asked her what was the solution to my problems and she gave me this great man phone number and his email address. i was doubting if this man was the solution, so contacted this great man and he told me what to do and i deed them all, he told me to wait for just two day and that my husband will come crawling on his kneels just for forgiveness so i faithfully deed what this great man asked me to do and for sure after two days i heard a knock on the door, in a great surprise i saw him on his kneels and i was speechless, when he saw me, all he did was crying and asking me for forgiveness, from that day, all the pains and sorrows in my heart flew away,since then i and my husband and our lovely kids are happy.that's why i want to say a big thank you to oluwakemiprosperityspell@live.com This great man made me to understand that there no problem on earth that has no solution so please if you know that you have this same problem or any problem that is similar, i will advise you to come straight to this great man. you can email him at:oluwakemiprosperityspell@live.com

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  95. i just want to share my testimony here.. i was married for 12 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the life of my husband.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn't know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned me and my 3 kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster called ashra so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn't believe in all those things… then when he cast the spell, after 3 days that he told me, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man help, his email address ashraspellhome@yahoo.com his spells is for a better life

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  96. With so much in my heart i am here to express myself on how Dr Kumar saved my marriage from breaking up. Myself and my husband were having some misunderstanding and it was tearing our marriage apart to the extend my husband was seeking for a divorce. So i have no option than to go to the internet to seek for solution to my problem it was there i came across Dr Kumar details and about how he has helped a lot of people by restoring there relationship. I contact Dr Kumar and in less than 48 hours my husband cancelled the divorce papers. Now myself and my husband live together in peace and harmony all thanks to Dr Kumar for saving my marriage from breaking up. Dr Kumar contact information are via email: spellcasttemple@gmail.com

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  97. I am Miss Lucy Hollywood., From united states of America.I will start by saying to all that have experience heart break and also cant do with out there lover should please stop here and read up my story, So as you will know how to go solving or getting your ex back from this spell caster..AND AGAIN I WILL WANT TO ALSO TELL ALL THAT THIS SPELL CASTER I WILL WANT TO TELL THE WHOLE WORLD ABOUT IS HARMLESS AND DO NOT HAVE ANY SIDE EFFECT, BUT TO RESTORE AND GIVE YOU BACK WHAT YOU DESERVE, COS WHEN I MEET WITH THIS SPELL CASTER THAT WAS INTRODUCED TO ME BY THE WIFE OF MY BOSS IN MY WORKING PLACE, HE MADE IT CLEAR THAT HE CAN CAST SPELL ON SO MANY OTHER PROBLEMS EXCEPT IN GETTING YOUR EX OR MAKING YOUR LOVER TO LOVE YOU MORE THAT WILL SUITE YOU. Last year December, My lover was cheating on me and was not also give me the attention that a man should give to a woman,And really that was troubling my mind and tearing my heart apart to the extent that i was not concentrating in the office the way i use to before the break up by my lover.And before that incident,I always see how my boss use to love his wife so much. I was binging to think that i was not doing the right thing to him that will make him love me forever,So i really gathered my courage and went to my boss wife office to ask her the secret that made her husband love her so dearly,In the first place she refused in telling me,She asked me why i am asking her such a question,That if is it not normal for every man to love his wife.I told her the reason that made me ask her about this question,That my lover started cheating on me lately,When i knelt down before her for her to see my seriousness in this issue that i went to ask her,She opened up to me by telling me that i should not tell anybody about what she want to tell me,The wife to my boss started to say to me that she used a very powerful spell on his husband to love her,And the spell that she used is harmless, But the spell is just to make him love her and never to look for any other woman except her. I QUICKLY ASK HER HOW DID SHE GET TO KNOW THIS GREAT,POWER,DURABLE AND PERFECT WORK SPELL CASTER,she said that a friend of hers also introduce her to him. Then i also ask her how i can meet with this spell caster.SHE SAID EVERYTHING TO ME,THAT THE NAME OF THIS SPELL CASTER IS Dr. DAHIRU TEMPLE. My next question to her was how can i get this wonderful spell caster,She said she is going to give me the email of the spell caster for me to contact him for my problem,Really she gave to me this spell caster email and i contacted him and explained all to him,And after every thing that needed to be done by the spell caster, In the next two days, My lover that hated me so much came to house begging for forgiveness and i was so glad that i have finally gotten my heart desire..I was so grateful to this spell caster for what he has done for my life.. So i made a promise to him that i will always continue telling the world about his wonderful work towards me and also to other that came to you before and also the people that will also get to you from my story that i narrated online now.. I will want to say to the entire world that you should not cry over noting again, That there is a great man that has been helping individuals to restore there Joy and smile in there faces !! The direct email to get this man is : arewaspecialisttemple@yahoo.com This is what i want to tell you all out there,That is thinking that all hope is lost ok..Thanks

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  98. i from USA i want to share my testimony with the world and also thank a great man called dr malawi racum for bringing joy into my life. it started like this,i hard a true lover celled James brown who promised to love and marry me,we both lived peacefully. one day he met a girl celled Betty and he loved her very much and decided to follow her living me behind,i tried all my effort to make him come back to me but he still decided to be with her.one day i saw an old friend of mine that told me about a great man celled dr malawi racum by name and i said let i give it a try and i contacted him, he told me what i am to do and i did exactly as he said, before the next 48 hours my ex lover came back to me if you need the help of this great man you can reach him on his email address SPELLOFSOLUTIONTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM or contact his cell phone number +2348072371282

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  99. Wow - My psychologist suggested I may have a form of ASAD yesterday and I came across this testimonial today. It's amazing to see how many people have the same issues are sharing them!
    I didn't quite have an "abusive" upbringing but my mother would regularly (every 3 to 4 weeks) reject everyone and lock herself in the bedroom for a day or two. Myself and my brothers were made to feel it was our fault and we had to "fix" it by begging forgiveness and offering love (which was rejected until she felt better about herself...). This has resulted in me developing ASAD with friends and reltaionships - Even in the very early stages of a relationship, I do all the things in the testimonial - Why haven't they replied to my text? Who are they with? Are they going to meet someone better than me? I need to keep my diary open in case they are free! Why aren't they keeping their diary open for me so that I can see them? Am I not important enough in their lives? The knot in the stomach when thinking about the person all day and night... All illogical especially when I've only know the person a week or two.
    But this all makes sense reading all these testimonials. And feels so much better that there are people out there sharing this issue.
    It is silly and illogical but try telling that to the emotions! But with the testimonials and rationailsing the thoughts before reacting, we can kick this!!!

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  100. I'm really glad I found this article! I had a tough childhood and didn't realize how much it has affected my adult life until now. When I was 3 my mom left me with my godmother for 7 months where I was starved, & physicality and emotionally abused. When I went back w my mom I was so skinny and dark from being in the sun, but she thought it was just a growth spurt and I was burnt from playing outside. She worked as a live in nanny and sometimes when she left the room I would cry and she and her boss would think I was just being annoying and spoiled so she would spank me. I grew up being spanked all the time and got used to it. I still went through some really tough times up until now. I'm 29, have my own place, & have been on my own since I was 20. I feel like I've been through so much and for the most part I'm "normal" strong, & blend in well. I notice my anxiety when people move away & when things get tough (car trouble, work, etc). I completely break down and feel defeated. My logical self always tells me to calm down, its not that serious, I've been through worse... but my inner broken child comes out and its soooo hard to control. One of my best friends moved to cali last yr and I cried for days like she died. Today I found this article because I met a guy that I actually like but he's taking a job in another state, & I've been crying aaall day on and off like he died. I even make fun of myself because I've only known him for 3 weeks and I'm not the clingy kind, but it's so hard to control these emotions. I need to find ways to cope because I seriously think I'm ridiculous lol! I guess it helps that I'm aware of the problem. Anyway, there's more but I would write a book here lol. I'm glad I'm not the only one, & even though we're strangers we find comfort in each other. Thank you!

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  101. My name is Roland monica from Houston,taxes.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in June 28th 2013 this year on a business summit. i ment a man called DR omoba. He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address: dromobaspellhome@gmail.com

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  102. I've known Johnson for years, When we finally got together things were kind of weird so we broke up which was in February of 2011 In June of 2012 he and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2013 which he told me he was not interested in relationship again During that time I changed completely, I wasn't eating,I was sleeping a lot, I wasn't talking to anybody, I cried a lot,I'm so depressed and stressed out that I'm scared I'm going to end up in the hospital because of all the stress and depression until one day i search online on getting love tips because I Love & care about him deeply and I just want us to be together as a couple again and I want us to last forever Google recommend me spirituallove@hotmail.com that he will solve my relationship problem then Dr Osaze told me he will come back to me between 48hrs after he cast spell on him never believe it until my fiance called me on the phone and told me he want us to come back and live happy together forever , Am so happy now that DR Osaze, help me bring Johnson back to me. Thanks so much( Dr Osaze) his email:spirituallove@hotmail.com

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  103. Thank you so much for verbalizing what I've always felt, but was never able to express fully.

    I have a vague memory of when I was a toddler, sniffling behind a gate, as my mother would leave for work. I remember thinking that my mother was my entire universe, and I never wanted to her to leave. I was flooded with relief when she'd come back home, radiant and smiling.

    As I got slightly older, things started changing. The warm, loving affection that a daughter would so naturally expect to receive from her mother, gradually turned cold and painful.

    It was emotional abuse in the form of silent treatments, sharp criticism, and sometimes outright spite and venom.

    I was learning quickly that any form of disobedience would result either an icy cold wall, or an explosion of temper. But more than anything else, the feeling of being abandoned and ignored was so intense and painful that I would wail and sob, just begging for her to even take a look at me. And I think that my fear of abandonment began to take root in those moments.

    My childhood separation anxiety/fear of abandonment ended when I finally detached myself from my mother and family members (they had been hearing so regularly about my 'misbehavior', that they were convinced I was a monstrous child, and so I had to leave because I felt nothing but shame for many many years)...

    ...but manifested itself after I'd become attached to romantic partner(s) and friends.

    And that in itself, has proven to be more disastrous than anything else.

    I'm constantly plagued, not just by my own distress, but by the distress caused to my partner. It incites feelings of pain, shame, guilt, anger - an entire range of negative and overwhelming emotion. I pick fights, at times attempting to bargain my way through.

    But inside, all I want to do is to curl up and cry. And hope, not to be understood and heard, but for this fear to be taken away. I wonder daily what it must feel to be normal and secure.

    To quote an excerpt from your post:

    "If there is a scheduling change for either of us, I panic. If I feel that he had control over the change and scheduled something during a time when we could have been together I get frustrated and accusatory"

    These are all words I'm all too familiar with. I feel the exact same way - mortifying, crippling fear and a total loss of control.

    The strange thing is that in many ways, I am still a very rational, level headed person! I rarely get mad, and I'm normally laid back and chill.

    I'm struggling with finding a solution for this, because right now, my partner is preparing for a new phase in life, with a new, unfamiliar job. Schedules and are routines being re-arranged - and this has triggered another explosive round of panic and anxiety in me.

    I would be grateful for any advise to be offered.

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    1. It seems to me that having a buddy system, as in AA, would be good for those with this disorder. Someone who has been there and understands, who you can contact when you are in the throes of the anxiety. What do you think?

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  104. I have just read this and cannot believe I have had this for years, I think it started when my husband left me. I hated when the kids would go out anywhere without me, I would sit at home and cry until they came home. I had a constant fear that without me something would happen to them. I am now happily remarried, but my husband goes away once a year for about three week, It is the most awful time for me, especially if he doesn't get to call me everyday. I go into a panic, I don't know what to do with myself, I cry, cannot eat, cannot sleep and don't function at work. And on the last few days he is away I almost convince myself he is not coming home, I truly thought I was loosing my mind until I read this. My oldest daughter has always said I have separation disorder but I thought she was making it up. So thank you it has made me feel so much better that it is a real problem not just me going mad, and that other people suffer from it. I must admit it has got better over the years, but my husband is away at the moment and I have been fine until just the last few days when I am starting to get really panicky as to whether he will come home, but also I think what has made it worse is that my son has gone to University and my other daughter now has a boyfriend so they are all flying the nest and this is having a significant impact on me. I am trying to keep calm and tell myself that the things I am feeling are absurd but I am finding it very difficult, I just can't wait for my husband to get home and hopefully I will feel a little better. Many thanks again for this article you have saved my sanity.

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  105. Hello I am cara,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex lover back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR Duck the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR Duck about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it has been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR Duck at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: greatoracletemplesolution@live.com and get your problems solve like me..... ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: greatoracletemplesolution@live.com

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  106. An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me.. My name is james i live in Australia,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.{emobeifospellcastertemple@gmail.com }. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {5}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {emobeifospellcastertemple@gmail.com},if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to the ideshispelltemple for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.{emobeifospellcastertemple@gmail.com}
    Thanks...

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  107. I contacted Dr Ijebu regarding my ex girlfriend. who was no longer wanted to love me anymore, after begging and pleading with her I realized it was because of another boy, she really was leaving me. My co-worker went threw a similar situation and told me that Dr Ijebu had helped her. I cant thank her enough, I'm grateful to her for introducing Dr ijebu to me. After discussing the resolution with him, his spell has done more than what I expected. My ex girlfriend not only came back to me, but she had also totally left that boy for me and now were engaged, we are getting married soon, I don't know what I would have done without Dr ijebu, I believed he is my guarding angel. DR IJEBU want to thank you & your gods for all that you've done for me all these years.I'm thankful for all the time & effort you & your gods have put into my PROBLEM. I am very happy for always been sincere and honest to me, His email is ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com

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  108. I contacted Dr Ijebu regarding my ex girlfriend. who was no longer wanted to love me anymore, after begging and pleading with her I realized it was because of another boy, she really was leaving me. My co-worker went threw a similar situation and told me that Dr Ijebu had helped her. I cant thank her enough, I'm grateful to her for introducing Dr ijebu to me. After discussing the resolution with him, his spell has done more than what I expected. My ex girlfriend not only came back to me, but she had also totally left that boy for me and now were engaged, we are getting married soon, I don't know what I would have done without Dr ijebu, I believed he is my guarding angel. DR IJEBU want to thank you & your gods for all that you've done for me all these years.I'm thankful for all the time & effort you & your gods have put into my PROBLEM. I am very happy for always been sincere and honest to me, His email is ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com

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  109. Dear Dr. Lametu, I wanted to thank you (yet again) for bringing Emily back to me. We had known each other for what seemed a lifetime and dated on and off during that lifetime. A couple years ago some rich beau moved to town and swept her away from me. They got married after 2 months of dating and moved away, I had no idea where she was or how to get a hold of her! I requested that the split them up and reunite us love spell be cast for me. A week later, out of nowhere, Emily showed up on my doorstep. Said she had been miserable in her short marriage, the guy was great but not for her. I helped her file for divorce and we got married at a justice of the peace two days after her divorce was final. We have been happy every since. You have done more for me that I could possibly ever repay you for. Ancientspiritualtemple@gmail.com is the best I've seen so far.

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  110. I have been in bondage ever since my ex leave for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much, Things get worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster Dr. Kasee who have save so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email (onimalovespell@yahoo.com) i explain everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend come to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i am the one and only woman in his life now. i was surprise i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Dr Kasee contact him today on ONIMALOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

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  111. My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but I decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then I went online there I saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is kalalovespell@gmail.com so I had to contact him and explain my problem to him and in just 3days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to. I cant thank the spell caster enough for what he did for me, i am so grateful and i will never stop to publish his name on the internet for the good work he has done for me,once again his email is kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  112. I will love to share my testimony to all the people in this site because i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me four weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls, She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her to her place of work she never want to see me..I was confuse as a result of this because i cant get myself anymore, my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i came across a spiritual man when i was browsing online.. I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back…he told me he gonna help me… he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of hours… My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to this site for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to templesaibaba@yahoo.com hope he helped u out too..good luck

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  113. After years of separation and divorce, my marriage and family are being restored by Dr Lawrence the great spell caster who restored back my happiness again. There is no explanation for the restoration, except the divine work of the Dr Lawrence.We do not deserve, and cannot earn, the grace of Dr Lawrence spell, yet He delivers us. I stand amazed at all He has done, and continues to do, for my family. I learned to stand and wait for my marriage restoration. Dr Lawrence spell is perfect, and always worth the wait.drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

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  114. Be careful here nobody can help you here or even suggest how you can get your ex or love back,any testimonies of most spell caster here must be ignore.because most of them are scam i mean real scam which i was a victim and i got ripped of thousands of dollars because i was so anxious to get my wife back after she left me for over 2 years with my 7 years old son jerry,i have applied to 7 different spell caster here and all to no avail they all ask for same thing send your name your ex name address and picture phone number etc which i did over and over again and most of them were from west Africa until i saw a post about mama Anita spell and i decided to gave her my last trail.she ask me four things my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and $180 and said my ex will come back in 24hours, i have paid over $3000 on spell casting and courier and nothing have work for me after 3 days i was thinking about how much i have lost so far so i said let me give her a try so i called her again and send my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and the $180 because i swear it was my last try so i was waiting as she told me to wait till next day and i could not sleep that night because i really love my wife and want her back at 9pm that day i saw my wife on line on face book and she said hi at first i was shock because she never talk with me for the past a year and 9 month now i did not reply again she said are you there? i quickly reply yes and she said can we see tomorrow i said yes and she went off-line i was confused i try to chat her again but she was no more on line i could not sleep that night as i was wondering what she is going to say, by 7.am the next morning she gave me a miss call i decided not to call back as i was still on shock again she call and i pick she said can we see after work today i said yes so she end the call immediately i got off work she call me and we meet and now we are back again i call mama anita the next day thanking her for what she has done in fact i still call her and thank her as my life was not complete without my wife please be careful here i have been scam thousands of dollars if you want a true love spell then contact mama Anita (mama.anitatruelovespell@gmail.com)

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  115. I hope the person who runs this blog will delete all the scam spell-caster posts, as this site could be a great resource for those with adult separation anxiety disorder. Let's keep it clean.

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  116. HELLO i have read testimonies about this great spell caster called Dr. Ekpiku how he helped people to bring their lover back. so i decide to give him a try, i am here today to give my own testimony on how this great man brought my ex back within 48 hours for just to contact him. this girl has broke up with me over 6 weeks but she came back just within 48 hours that Dr Ekpiku said he will make her come back to me. just contact this man and he will bring your ex back here is his email address mail. Ekpikuspelltemple@live.com

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  117. I am really short of words, can't finally believe i got my boyfriend back this is my testimony about the man that brought back my man dr Lawrence he gave me the heart and confident to trust in him within the period of 3days right now we are living happily and getting very ready and set for our wedding, i am so much happy knowing full well there are real, true spell casters who can really make things happen within the shortest possible time. drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

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  118. HI My Name is Jennifer , I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called dr ABULU of( abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost family to me with his great spell, I was married to this man called James we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give he a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get he back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) then you wont believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother a baby girl, thank you once again the great ABULU for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems you can contact he today on his mail (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com or his website, http://abuluspiritualtemple.webs.com and he will also help you as well.

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  119. The guy my girlfriend left me for dumped her for someone he works with after casting the win ex back spell which my friend introduce me to! the win ex back spell works fast! Of course she called me and pleaded for my forgiveness and now she always want to be with me,she is always attached to me now trusting everything i say to her. I love knowing I had everything to do with this winexbackspell@gmail.com for i will keep shearing the goodness until i am satisfy.

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  120. I just finished reading this article and many of the comments. I too feel like I potentially suffer from ASAD. My anxiety though doesn't stem from the potential fear of cheating or loss. Its that I miss my wife terroribly while she is gone and I feel so along. I miss her so much I will actually show physical symptoms such as vomiting headaches and lack of appetite if she's away on vacation or business without me. Its something that I need to come to terms with so can move on with life. She doesn't understand why I feel the way I do and honestly I don't really either because I know she will be back. The big thing for me is I don't want the way I feel to cause resentment in her or cause her to miss out on oppurnitities.

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  121. Hello!

    I am Elizabeth, i want to thank ''orikiolodumarespelltemple@gmail.com'' for the very great spell he caste on my husband that makes him to come back to me immediately. We have been married for 9 years and we were blessed with three kids, my husband left us unjust-fully and was lost in a beauty of a woman, a woman who can't even withstand me and was staying with her, and left me and the kids all alone in the house and never care for us. each time I called him, he always insult and used me down on
    phone, until i met a friend of mine who introduce me to (Orikiolodumarespelltemple@gmail.com) and he assured me that my husband will be back to me within three days really after that given time I heard someone knocking at my door and find out it was my husband, pleading and dropping out tears begging for forgiveness, I accepted and we are now one, now i will advice everyone who are in this condition to contact him for your own solution at : Orikiolodumarespelltemple@gmail.com ..... he will
    help you and bring your sorrowful life to happiness.

    CONTACT HIM THROUGH Orikiolodumarespelltemple@gmail.com

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  122. My name is Frank Morrison, my family and i live in NY USA.It was after seven years i got to discover that my wife was unfaithful to me.I didn’t know what was going on at first but as she got deep in the affair with her new lover, i felt that our marriage was on the rocks.I notice that she no longer light up when i touch her or kiss her in her neck and her chest cos she really liked it when i did that, she also usually get naked in front of me but when she started seeing that guy she stopped it.I remember asking her if i have done anything that makes her feel irritated when i am around her then she gives silly excuses that she has been feeling stressed up and that she need space for a while.I know when you are been asked for space its usually because there is something fishy is going on.I hired a private investigator to help find out what was going on.And in a week time he brought me prove that my wife that i have lived with for seven straight year is cheating on me with her high school lover.I had picture of her walking out a of a restaurant with him and many other photo of them kissing in public like she will never be caught by someone that knows she is my wife.I asked myself, even when we had a daughter together she could this to me.That same night i showed her the pictures that i got from my private investigator.She didn’t look at it before saying, that she is seeing someone and she know that i just found out about it.Then she said that she is in love with him.At that moment, i didn’t know if to kill myself or to kill her but the button line is that if i was going to kill anyone it was going to be me cos i was so much in love with her to even think of thinking to hurt her.As time when on she asked for a divorce and got it and even got custody of our daughter and i was all alone by myself.For a year i tried all i could to get her back with the help of my seven year old daughter.Even at that all effect was in vain, i used the help of her friend but turned out all bad.I know most people don’t believe in spell casting but believe me this was my last option and the result i most say was impressive.And i know it difficult to believe but A SPELL CASTER Dr brave really made my life much better cos he gave me my family back.He didn’t ask me to pay for what he did for me all i was to do, was to provide the materials for the spell and believe that he had the power to help me.Like he said, he was going to do something that will make her reset her love and affection for me just as it has always been.My wife told me she woke up and realized that she should have never left me that i am all she needs.To make thing clear, her life with her high school lover was great before Dr brave castled the spell they had no disagreement on anything.The guy said it himself that why she broke up with him is unexplainable.Only Dr brave can do such a thing contact him to solve your problem with his email:drogunspellhome@gmail.coml CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

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  123. My fiance had an affair. We had been engaged for 13 months and were due to get married in November this year. i found a text on his phone and at first he denied everything and then he admitted it. He has now left and is seeing the girl from work that he was having the affair with. I am devastated, all my hopes and dreams for my future have been crushed. I desperately want him back and i went online for advice where i saw a comment and the email address written on it ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com I contacted the temple for help and to my greatest surprise, my fiance gave me all attention that's due to me and now we are getting married 12th of April. I am so happy for having what belongs to me back.

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  124. My name is Major. Barrack Herold, my wife left me went i was in the war front. I spent 6 months in the during the United Nations peace keeping in Sierra Leone. I was very shocked when i came back and notice that my wife is engaged to someone else. The anger of the war lend me into the street chasing the man with gun until one faithful Monday when my co-soldier from Africa introduce me to templeofpermanenthealing@hotmail.com .I was very nervous in contacting him because i never believe in spell. I gave him a trial and to my greatest surprise, it worked. Stephine is back home with my son and i am the most happy man on earth. If anyone need to solve any problem, I Major. Barrack Herold advise you to contact templeofpermanenthealing@hotmail.com

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  125. I was odopted as child sepsrated fromm my siblings which had sffected every damm relationship I have. Recenntly a relstionship I was in, ended. I wass soo attached and the loss of someone I cared soo much for hit me hard. To this day I still cryy snd hurt if im separated in any way from someone I really care for and come across as a clingy physchotic 23 year old haha.
    Thankyou reading this, I can relate and have a better understanding of why I cant cope with separation, felt liike the thoughts in my head.

    Thankyou. Vicky.

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  126. Thankyou for writing this article and helping me see its totally ok and to move on from the past and hurts at my own pace and im not alone. Vicky

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  127. I almost cried while reading this. I'm realizing my ASAD cause my relationship in danger. I want to be free from ASAD. I want to live my life and have a healthy relationship. Thank you for sharing this. I understand myself more and my partner more.

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  128. Hi just wanted to let you know that after you did the break-up spell last week my husband move out that girls house and got his own place. Not sure if they are still seeing each other but it's a start. After you did the bring my baby back spell few days back, we decided to take some baby steps and start talking and spending time together. I will definitely let others know about your work and will be using your services again very soon! Thank you very much Dr. Lee get to him via Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  129. This is an excellent blog along with the great knowledge.
    panic away

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  130. I am exactly the same way. It started when I was 12 and I am now almost 16. It is terrible. I really want to get over it but whenever I have to be away from my mom and get sick, cry, and think about all those things. It scares me so much to be away from her. Any tips about overcoming separation anxiety?

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  131. my ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I visited the internet for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster (Dr Kasee) help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster (Dr Kasee) and explain my problems to him….. he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my boyfriend came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you for helping me to get my love back and your love spell is truely perfect, you are truly talented and gifted i will continue to publish your name on the net because of the good work you are doing.If you need his help contact him now through his email: (onimalovespell@gmail.com)tel +2347051705853 He also specialize on all kind of spell such as:

    1 LOVE SPELL
    2 WIN EX BACK
    3 FRUIT OF THE WOMB
    4 PROMOTION SPELL
    5 PROTECTION SPELL
    6 BUSINESS SPELL
    7 GOOD JOB SPELL
    8 LOTTERY SPELL

    YOU CAN CONTACT HIM NOW AND GET YOUR PROBLEM SOLVED email: onimalovespell@gmail.com


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  132. My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but I decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then I went online there I saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is kalalovespell@gmail.com so I had to contact him and explain my problem to him and in just 3days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to. I cant thank the spell caster enough for what he did for me, i am so grateful and i will never stop to publish his name on the internet for the good work he has done for me,once again his email is kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  133. My Name is Hanger from USA.I never believed in Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster called Dr Olushehshe.The woman i wanted to marry left me 2 months to our weeding ceremony and my life was upside down.she was with me for 4 years and i really love her so much..she left me for another man with no reasons..when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don't want to see me around her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell to bring her back.At first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In 3 days,she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can ever come back to me again but now i am happy she's back and we are married now and we live as a happy family..Am posting this to the forum if anyone needs the help of this man.Can contact him through this email address: worldwidesupremetemple@gmail.com

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  134. my name is Kim i want to testify about a great spell caster that help me cast a spell that brought my ex boyfriend back to me without any delay. I broke up with my ex with just little misunderstanding hoping we will get back shortly,but things was growing worse until i contacted Dr Kala .spell priest who help me with his historical powers to bring him back, without charging me any money for his work, i have never believed in a spell caster until i came across Dr Kala spell home, Well it will be of great sin if i should go out from here without dropping the contact of this great spell caster,in case you need the help of this great spell caster you can contact him through his email once you contact him all your problems will be over,once again i say very big thanks to you sir for helping me to recover my ex back, and please sir keep your good work cause people need your helping hand in their lives.once more contact him on his email:kalaspellhome55@gmail.com Bye Bye

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  135. i can't really believe that i am with my Ex-Husband back after when he broke up with me with 4 kinds i thank Dr Atakpo of (dratakpospelltemple@gmail.com) for helping me getting back my man back, My Name is Mrs Rhona Cole i am from England and my man name is Mr Alan Cole, my happiness turn to bitterness,my joy turn to sorrow,my love turn to hate when my husband broke up with me last week,i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i was so unthinkable and i could not concentrate any more, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady and this lady i think cast a spell on my husband to make him hate me and my kinds and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helped to get back my man until i went to Westmoreland to see a friend and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa name DR ATAKPO that he help with love spell in getting back lost lover's back and i decided to contacted the same Dr Atakpo and he told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr told me that i will get the result after 24hours, and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 9pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much Oh My God i was so happy, and today i am happily with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr Atakpo of dratakpospelltemple@gmail.com, he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr Atakpo is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr Atakpo on his email: dratakpospelltemple@gmail.com and he will answer you, i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr Atakpo i say thank you in one million times thanks Dr.

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  136. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me....My name is maria cooker ... My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa ork who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called grace,she testified about how papa ork brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa ork e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. papa ork is really a talented and gifted man and i will not to stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man...If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that problem for you. Try the great papa ork today, he might be the answer to your problem. Here's his contact: orkstarspell@gmail.com Thank you great ork. Contact him for the following:

    (1)If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4)You want women/men to run after you.
    (5)If you want a child.
    (6)[You want to be rich.
    (7)You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8)If you need financial assistance.
    (9)Herbal care
    10)Help bringing people out of prison
    Contact him today on:
    orkstarspell@gmail.com

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  137. It hit me today, that as I dropped my 17 year old daughter off for her and her friends to go camping on their own, that my girl is starting to take steps away from me. Since she was born, she has been my world, my rock and my reason behind my strength and perseverance.

    When she has left me before, to go to her Dad’s for the weekend, or a week in the summer with her grandmother, I felt anxiety. I hate being without her, to know that she is in my care, and that if she were ever in trouble I would literally die for her. When she is not with me, I fear that no one will protect her if she is in trouble. I dream of horrible things happening to her, and I cry like it is actually happening. How messed up is that??

    Now, she is as old as I was when I left home and that terrifies me. I am constantly encouraging her to live at home for as long as she can. I give her all these great reasons to stay just so I don’t have to let her go. I’m just so afraid all the time. I worry about her getting hurt and me not being there to help her, I worry about people trying to manipulate her, I worry about her, period. Funny thing is, she is a great girl, with a solid head on her shoulder. She would probably know how to take care of herself than most girls, but that thought only soothes me for a bit before the images creep back in of her in trouble.

    I try not to tell anyone how I feel because I don’t want anyone to tell me that I am being ridiculous. I feel all over the map emotionally and can’t bear to have my feelings exposed and laughed at. Which, by the way, has happened.

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  138. I have been in great bondage for almost 6 months suffering in the hands of a cheating husband,we were happy and leaving well until he meant his old time gilr friend and he started dating her outside our marriage before you knew it he stopped caring and taking care of his own family it was to the extent that now he was planning to get married to her and divorce me his own wife, i have cried and reported him to his family but he never listened to any one but to cut my story short i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back me and our 2 kids on my search i saw people making testimony on how their marriage where restored by Dr Saibaba i pick his email and i narrated my story to him and he agreed to help me and after performing a spell on the third day they both had a quarrel with his girlfriend and he came home begging for i and my little kids to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never cheat again.I am so so happy that i did not loose him to the girl all appreciation goes to Dr Saibaba for you are a great spell caster and to whom this may concern if you have a cheating husband or wife you can as well email him on templesaibaba@yahoo.com

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  139. Read This. i Gracy try so many of this spell casters when my husbands tends to divorce me because he thought i keep a secret from him before we get married. they all ask of different thing with money and i provide to each because my husband is my life and i love him so much but they all disappoint me till the court finally sign our divorce document so we go apart last 3years 2012 march 15 i packed to my new house......one day while i was alone( within February ) i just decide to get some knowledge on how to cope with divorce and forget the memories of my past husband because i thought he had marry another woman. while i was reading online i saw how Dr (oshogumspelltemple@live.com) help some men and women get all they desired including healing the sick one. i just decide to contact oshogum also and just ask him how much his work cost but replied and said it free but i most tell the word how he solved my problem if he can do it. so i promised and he sent me the name of materials that his great god demand to get man back. my friend in Norway help me get the items because i could not get the materials here in Germany and she also send it to him. after two days he told me to call my husband but his number was disconnected but he direct me to call my husband work phone that i did, once my husband heard my voice he was very happy, he asked me were i was, i told him my new house. i was so surprise to him in my house. i never believe he can ever come back again. he beg for forgiveness and true love. We both go the same court to terminate the divorce agreement. Still like i am dreaming to see Davidson came back and we live together now even expecting our first kid soon. Thanks to oshogumspelltemple@live.com. Well you can contact him oshogumspelltemple@live.com case you suffer any problem.

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  140. Hello to all my Name is Selina from United States of America , I do hope my post gets read and hopefully helps somebody along the line. i will never forget the help the priest of JAYEMA temple render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 4 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was just checking my mails in the office when i saw someone sharing her testimony on how the priest of JAYEMA temple help her out with her marital problems so i contacted the email of priest JAYEMA i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place that i should fill some information concerning my self i did after 30 minus he called me again congratulating me that my problems will be solve within 48 hours. he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage but i will make a free donation to their JAYEMA home anything my heart told me. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give priest JAYEMA a try they work surprises because i know they will also bring back your husband. contact him via jayemamagictemple@gmail.com you can still visit his web site jayemamagictemple.webs.com or Tel; +(234)-706819-3499. sure he will help you get the problem solved okay.

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  141. My name is SARAH Am giving this testimony because someone out there may have similar problem, my husband think polygamy is not wrong, he has been seeing another girl for the past 1year and 6months now, and i told him he need to stop but he is saying he is in love with her, they have even talked about been together "FOREVER" and also her moving in with us, my husband still love me he regret getting into this at the first place,but not willing to break-up with her,he says if they so break-up, there will be no other relationship outside our matrimony. Then i explain and complain to my VERY GOOD FRIEND called MERCY, and she contacted me with one spellcaster called DR.INIBOKUN, I pray that ALMIGHTY GOD will continue to use him to help other people. Friend dont die in silent because someone like DR. INIBOKUN, has a solution to your problem, no matter the problem just contact him with drinibokunspell@gmail.com. cos i am living happily now with my family.

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  142. My life is back!!!
    I had a problem with my husband six months ago,which lead to us apart. When he broke up with me,I was no longer myself,I felt so empty inside .Until a friend of mine told me about one of her spells that helped in same problem too that she found on a television program. i emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked me to briefly make. to cut the long story short,Before I knew what was happening,not up to 24 hours,my husband gave me a call and he come back to me and told me he was sorry about what has happened, I'm so grateful to this spell caster and i will not stop publishing his name on the internet just for the good work he has been doing.If you need his help,you can email him at(UNIQUELOVESPELLCENTER@YAHOO.COM)and he will also help you Dr Akim is his name (UNIQUELOVESPELLCENTER@YAHOO.COM) I will be forever grateful to you.or call his mobile number on +2348159645271

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  143. My name is Victoria Terry, i live in UK. I want to testify of a great spell caster who restored back my marriage. After 2 years of broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr.Ramah whom i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and also spell to get a good paid job that he is amazing, i also came across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Sonia, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 3 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email. After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. After 4 days my husband came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever before. Dr.Ramah is a gifted man and i will not stop testifying about him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on (DR.RAMAHSPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM) for a great help.

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  144. Dr. OLOKUM is really the best i have ever seen since my husband left me and my kids i have been trying different online spell caster and i did not see any result until a friend of mine gave me his contact Email address that i should contact him that he will be able to help me. The first time he told me what i have to do i thought he was the same as the other so called spell caster but i just have to give it a try which i did and after he did the casting of the spell i started seeing changes my husband send gift to my kids and also wrote a letter that he was going to come back home very soon i was so surprise and now we are back together again thank you My husband came back home after 4days with so much love and care. Here is his contact LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM . if you wish to seek help from him.OR CALL HIM +2347053977842

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  145. After being in relationship with my husband for nine years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is (LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM } tel.+2347053977842) you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything.

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  146. Is Dr.EBHOSE you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship,I
    promise you.your problems will be solve immediately. After being in
    relationship with him for seven years, He left me, i did everything
    possible to bring him back back but all was in vain. I wanted him back
    because of the love I have for him, I begged him but he refused until I
    explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should
    rather mail a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him
    back but I am the type that never believe in spell, I had no choice than to
    try it, I mailed the spell caster, he told me there was no problem that
    everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me
    before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day,
    that was around 4:00pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the
    call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened,
    that he wanted to return to me, that he love me so much. I was so happy and
    surprised. Since then I have made a promise that everybody I know will
    never have a relationship problem, that I will refer them to the spell
    caster to help them. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his
    email ebhodaghespell@gmail.com
    He also cast so many spell like,

    ( 1) want your ex back .
    (2) You always have nightmares.
    (3) To be promoted in your office
    (4) Want a child.
    (5 ) Do you want to be rich.
    (6 ) want to hold your husband / wife to be yours alone forever.
    (7 ) need financial assistance.
    8) Do you want to be in control of you marriage
    9) Want you be attracted to people
    10) Childlessness
    11) NEED A HUSBAND / WIFE
    13) HOW TO WIN YOUR LOTTERY
    14) PROMOTION SPELL
    15) PROTECTION SPELL
    16) BUSINESS SPELL
    17) GOOD JOB SPELL
    18) Cure for any disease/ h.i.v.
    Contact him today on: ebhodaghespell@gmail.com

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  147. My Name is Lee Kima, From United Kingdom. I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr.henry olu has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell, I was married to this man called Steven we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email Dr henry olu. agagulovespell@gmail.com then you won't believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great Dr henry olu for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below:

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    Mobile number...+2348158266512
    Email...Dr henry olu. agagulovespell@gmail.com or agagulovespell@yahoo.com

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  148. BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT Henry olu SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $250 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HER A TRY SO I CALLED HER AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $250 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL Henry olu THE NEXT DAY THANKING HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HER AND THANK HER AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT Henry olu (agagulovespell@gmail.com) or agagulovespell@yahoo.com

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  150. I am Evelyn from Spain, I want to thank Dr Kavaki for the help he render to me by bringing the love of my life back to me. My husband who left me for another woman has finally come back on his knees begging me to forgive and accept him back after he abandon me and our 2 years old son for 3 years in pain and sorrows, till one day when i was seeking for solution on the internet on how to get him back so i saw the testimony of a girl who said that Dr Kavaki helped her bring her lover back with his magic spell so i decided to contact him for help and today i am very glad to tell the world that i am a happy woman today because as i speak right now my husband is back home for good and we are living happily all these happened with the help of Dr Kavaki magic spell. Do you need help to get your husband, wife, boyfriend/girlfriend or relative back, or do you need help of any kind of help then contact Dr Kavaki via email for help: kavakispelltemple@outlook.com

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    1. My husband broke up with me a month ago because of the little misunderstanding will had, he was dating other young lady and he never take me out again he was totally changed and he never listen to any thing i told him. one day he came and told me he is bringing in other lady in our home, i was so frustrated so when i came across Dr.airiohuodion (airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com) how he use to rebuild broken home and make their family to reunite together again, so i quickly email him and explain all my problem to him and he guarantee me that my husband will definable want me back after the reunite spell. After everything my husband (SAM) came back to tell me he still love and cherish me that he promise never to cheat on me any more i was so happy and i quickly email Dr.airiohuodion (airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com) and thank him for the wonderful spell, he was God sent and if you need his helping hand contact his direct email at.(airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com).

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  151. My husband is back!!!
    I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago,which lead to us apart. When he broke up with me,I was no longer myself,I felt so empty inside .Until a friend of mine told me about one of her spells that helped in
    same problem too that she found on a television program. i emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked me to briefly make. to cut the long story short,Before I knew what was happening,not up to 48 hours,my boyfriend gave me a call and he come back to me and told me he was sorry about what has happened, I'm so grateful to this spell caster and will not stop publishing his name on the internet just for the good work he has been doing.If you need his help,you can email him at uniquelovespellcenter@yahoo.com and he will also help you to Dr Akim is his name uniquelovespellcenter@yahoo.com I will be forever grateful to you.or call his mobile number on +2348159645271

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  152. My name is Mr Cardenas,my wife was having affair with a senior secretary in her office. I love this woman so much that i would not want to share her with any body. i told her to retire from the job and i would take care of all her needs but she would take it because she is been embraced by everybody in her office, this normally leads to quarrel every-time. i tried all i can to please her and she will promise to be good , some days later she will turn back to her normal way.
    i was nearly loosing out, i could not focus in my job, my whole life was full of sorrow and i was thinking i should kill the other man my self and put an end to all this until i saw a testimony from a blog on how DR EDIONWE could cast a love spell to bring lovers back no matter what is behind the disappointment. so i decided to write him via email. edionwesolutiontemple@yahoo.com and now all my wishes are exactly as i wanted. She told me everything that has happened secretly in the past and i forgave her as DR EDIONWE instructed me to and she loves me and care for me as i ever wanted. i know there are many spells that do not work but i want to assure all you out there no matter what you have been trough to have faith and believe that this is the final solution to your problem.
    Even if my job is taking most of my time, the little free time i have , i will share the good news to everyone in the world because i know that with love brings happiness and hope for a long life.

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  153. I want to use this medium to tell the world about Dr Kasee who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg him several times to please forgive and accept me back because i knew i offend him but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because he always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell him but on one faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was worse than mine and yet Dr Kasee helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Dr Kasee for help via email (onimalovespell@gmail.com) and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe your tear out with my spell so luckily for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Dr Kasee can not do with is spell and just as promise myself i will keep testifying on the internet of how Dr Kasee helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Dr Kasee will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Dr Kasee today to help you email: onimalovespell@gmail.com

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  154. Dr. Lee your Love Spell delivered my ex back to me so we could fix the problems we had. It was a process that was far easier then I thought. I was literally floored at the effectiveness of your Return My Ex Lover Spell Casting. I had doubts until he called and told me he couldn't stop thinking of me. Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com you are the best I've ever seen and I will continue to give you praise.

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  155. Hi, I live on the South Coast and 18 months ago I was in a relationship with someone who had decided they wouldn't commit in any way. I was really unhappy as deep down I felt that we should be together and I just couldn't understand why he was so anti a relationship. I spoke to a friend of mine who recommended I contact Dr Tako, so in February 2012 I sceptically called to see if she would be able to help.
    We had an initial chat and was reassured that although he would take a bit longer due to his reluctance, he was positive that he would be able to bring us together, and ultimately me live with him.
    Well, I can now confirm that I have now moved in with my partner and he has committed to the relationship and I can't thank Dr Tako enough for changing my life. I am totally amazed and so happy that he has been able to do this for me, it has taken time, however Dr Tako has constantly been there for reassurance, however, you must follow and listen to everything he says, as it is very important to follow guidance and instructions but IT WORKS and I am living proof, I can't thank her enough.
    I also had an issue with work earlier and I asked for help with this as well, and immediately Dr Tako went to work and after a short period of time my work environment changed!! for the better.
    I have to say if you need any help at all, Dr is your solution. Hugely talented, fantastic at his job and has changed my life for the better, and if I have any further problems in the future I will definately use her again.
    Please, please try, he is amazing, I am so happy and pleased he has brought me and my man together and will be eternally grateful for that.
    Thank you, thank you, Dr Tako you are the best and I will so miss our chats, but I will keep you informed, you have worked tirelessly for me. i advice you o contact him my friend on his email adress @ drtakolovespells@gmail.com

    With Lots of Love, Mrs Ramond Scotties.

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  156. My name is Gina Sneed from Canada the husband i used to love with all my heart divorced me i feel like crying to tell anyone this. i tried everything but nothing came alright, luckily enough i was browsing on internet and i saw testimony of clients who talked about prof, i thought may be its also one of the scamming spell caster,but my heart insisted on it until i contacted him via email maduraitemple@yahoo.com i used his spell and it worked so nice, his spell stopped my husband from divorcing me Dr madurai has not only made my man to stop the divorce but also his spell made Sneed to love me the more:if you need help, call him at +2348132642680 his email maduraitemple@yahoo.com

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  157. Hello to every one out there, my name is Tiffany. I'm here to shear my unexpected miracle that has happen to me through the help of DR MARVEL. I was happily married and we had three kids, we lived together as one because we both loved each other but before I knew it, my husband started acting funny and cheating on me later on, he told me that he cannot continue with me so that was how he left me and my three kids without noting but there was noting i could do to stop him or bring him back to me. I work so had to pay the kids schools fee and other responsibility for good five years. I cry all day and night because I didn't know what to do to have my husband back to me until this faithful day I read the post from one Miss Escobar testifying how the great spell caster helped her to get her ex back. I just wanted to try my luck because I never believe it will work but to my greatest surprise, am singing a new song i contacted the great spell caster and he told me not to worry because once he finish casting the spell, that I will get back my husband . The unbelievable happened on Sunday when I got a call and I was surprise to hear my husbands voice apologizing to me that he's so sorry for his Wrong did and telling me he's back home again and we are happily united again. wow!!! I really appreciate your good works great Dr.Marvel. I'll always acknowledge your "FABULOUS WORKS" and there's noting I could say than to tell the world about you. So if any one is out here seeing this post and you have similar issue like this, worry no more and contact this great spell caster that can help you. Dr.Marvel is available anytime you contact him..via email extremespellhome@hotmail.com or contact him directly on his website http://extremespellhome.webs.com. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.

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  158. This is a very happy day of my life because of the help Dr. Hunt has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his powerful love spell. I was married for 9 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr. Hunt email on the internet on how he help so many people to get their ex back and help fixing relationship problem, i was totally convinced to contact him. I sent him an email and explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my presence. My sorrowful marriage has turned out to be the best because Henry is a changed man. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr. Hunt is truly a real spell caster. Anyone who need his help should contact him through his email: ancientremedy1@gmail.com

    Emily

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  159. Hello everyone i want to share a live testimony on how Dr Alex was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act..
    My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this i was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until i met Dr Alex the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, Dr Alex cast a love spell for me, and after some time i started seen results about the spell....
    Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr Alex all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage, friends in case you need the help of Dr Alex kindly mail him on( solutionhelpcentre@gmail.com ) or his website (http://solutionhelpcentre.webs.com) or call him on +2347036013351, Sir i will forever recommend you!!!

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  160. My Name is Clark Morgan from USA; I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum because i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 5 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this because i cant get myself anymore,my life was up and down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to my life,but it did not work out; until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business some years back,and I told him my problem and all i have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he will help me...but i don't believe him,he give me DR HOPE contact.so i contact HER and i explain everything to HER, but She say she will help me out and she told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from her..she said she will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following week when i got home and i called her, she said she's busy casting spells for people that i should call her back later.so later i called her and she said she has consult the onracale,and i need to get all the materials needed for the spell cast,so i told her that i can not get all those items by my self.so i send her money to get the material by her self.she said i should not worry after she has cast the spell i will see positive results in the next 2 days.after she has cast the spell she told me that on Friday my girlfriend will call me by 2:pm,I was still dating her i never trust her.I was waiting for the time she told me.to my greater surprise before 2:pm my girlfriend called me and apologies to me for all she had done to me..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like a dreaming when i heard that from her and when she ended the call,i called dr hope and told her my wife called me and apologies to me, she said i haven't seen anything yet... she said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they are going to compensate me for the time limit i have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This woman is really powerfult this is my first time to come accross a woman spell caster that is so powerful in casting a spell. if we have up to 20 people like her in the world,the world would have been a better place..she has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..I Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting this woman for help.you can mail him through hopespiritualspellcastertemple@gmail.com)
    I can not give out his number because he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied any one that write her for help.ONCE AGAIN Her EMAIL ADDRESS IS:hopespiritualspellcastertemple@gmail.com)
    this are the few jobs she also do for people;
    *HE BRING BACK LOST LOVERS IN 24hrs.
    *REMOTE CONTROL OVER LOVERS.
    *ALL TYPES OF SPELL CASTING & VOODOO WORKER.
    * IS YOUR HEALER TAKING LONG TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS? THIS IS YOUR CHANCE TO BE HELPED QUICKL

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  161. I suffer from separation anxiety really bad. I miss someone who I haven't hung out with in three years. The story gets crazier it's my best friend's sister. I never planned to have romantic feelings for her, but her and I use to hang out and I miss it a lot. I would do just about anything for her. I have a romantic soul. I've been having chest pains really bad. When her and I hung out we were hanging out just friends. I don't want to be just her friend. I want to give her my heart which is bursting with romantic feelings for her. I want to learn to cook her favorite foods, I want to buy her coffee and listen to her talk about what she loves. I love to see her smile and she actually helps me to lighten up a lot which is great. When she gets mad she actually looks cute, not that I'm trying to make her mad. If I had a lot of money I would trade it to be with her. If I had a lot of money I would love to spend it on her. She is just so beautiful to me inside and out and I love to make her smile and laugh. I just hope she gives me a chance someday so I can show her how much I love her.

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    1. Well, if both of you are single and available, wouldn't hurt to meet again and if it feels right, confide your wish for a closer relationship. What do you have to lose?

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